All I talked in my above post is external shame if you get caught. Whether police will torture you or not is a different story. I know both stories where they slut shame you and leave you after taking good bribe. I also listened to the ones where they don't leave you after taking lakhs as bribe. They play with you. If your FATE (not money) is good, you get through it easy. I knew such stories as well. But you cannot predict beforehand on what you have to go through. Its all from hindsight and chitchat. All you get from SP (if you are so close to him) is whether some sort of LE going on for days. But as
@fizzyy pointed out, for most they won't tell you the reality. Some sort of raids have symptoms (if it is not NGO based), but still we stay somewhere else and its tough to notice the aura/environment unless we stay in the area. A pan shop wala in the area is way better ahead in sensing the raid because he sees whats happening daily. He sees the changing environment, disputes and LE going on. During that LE period, they may raid you anytime (even SP don't know that). But the SP never tell you the aura of changing environment because he cares more about his wallet, family than you. Also, you cannot keep an eye (if you are from elsewhere) on the pros area/environment for weeks to sense it yourself. So literally speaking, its not possible to sense normal raids too. Some raids happen just for brothels checkup as per govt rules. They are planned. Its not raid in literal sense. But if police wala see the customer, they try to intimidate you and extract as much money as possible. Most mongerers consider this as raid and feel they bribed police and came out clean. There are some raids which happens with no symptoms (mostly NGO). Deadliest of all with lot of media coverage and cameras shooting at your face. If you get busted in them, GOD knows when you come out. Because, its NGO who ensures action against you and all that caught. Police cannot do much here even with bribes. For me, the thumb rule is the more popular the place, the more the changes of getting busted.
Now, I would like to talk the emotional part.
I read at many places not to be emotional with pros. But as a newbie, you are bound to be. Because, reading suggestions won't help. You don't know how emotions work as you haven't experienced. The more you are lonely, the more emotional you will be. These chicks see many dicks each year and its business as usual for them. But for us, this get addictive in the act seeking more such emotion. Its a cycle. We see handful of women naked in our lives and you get emotional (any sort of listening/talking to them is). You can read many posts in these forum where people get in touch with indies for years. Many emotionally connect to them. Pros are no diff. The fact is, I realized through experience, any girl who talks well and gives good company is dangerous emotionally in long run if you are not stable. There are some girls who do the act emotionless. Even thought it appears rude and un lively for short term, you are safe emotionally. You wont remember them ever. But after a point you will really seek a real emotional connect (not put up smiles). Going to such places doesn't make sense. Because, their job is monotonic.
1. I once asked a known chick "A" for a very small fantasy of mine. it involves hugging her from back and staring in the mirror. The girl said, blah blah reason which made no sense. Mind you, the girl is so good till then. We laughed, discussed stories, spitted on each other, had fun, what not. Actually, She did it for me. But I don't see her happy. That moment, I realized its all made-up. From that day, I started observing women very attentively. Their small reactions.
2. The other is "P", the first women I met during my mongering. She was optimistic and gave a very matured talk which I even never expected from an educated girl. We had lengthy conversations, talked philosophy and shared lot of stories. I kind of fell in love with her as a whole. She appeared so positive on life and told nothing to be afraid of act or place and life in general. She gave the initial KICK that I needed. After subsequent meetups, she opened up. She told that I am coming to a wrong place and I should get married soon. I see guilt in her face for the first time. She started rejecting and saying "No" rudely to small things. The lengthy conversations have stopped and they are filled with long pauses even for simple questions. All I saw in her is a women who is feeling guilt who as per her duty is getting ready to meet the next customer. No emotion at all. On one particular day after couple of "No's" from here, I moved slowly to her forehead, kissed her, thanked her and abruptly left. I never met her again. Its very very painful. I connected with her emotionally. There are days where I went just to share her optimism. The most painful thing for me is, that women with optimistic talk is no longer there and the she has lot of pain inside her and I could not solve it, better I step away.
3. Another is "S", muslim women, short, beautiful belly. I loved her belly and picked her. I went to her twice but never did the act and I don't know why. She is all in for it.
- First time it was my Jhonny. She encourage him enough. It slept there. The moment I came out of the room it went strong.
- Second time its her innocence. I felt I am exploiting her. I couldn't do.
4. I met many other women too,
- who gave more importance to the dress than the sense of my touch
- who keep facepalms, weird looks when I ask something small out of their menu list which shouts "every customer comes for your chut".
- who are guilt, insecure and keep uninterested faces when you see their bodies or find spots
- who keep talking in phone till your pay time is over
- who smile at you during pick up time and gets moody and serious later on.
Some chicks lie, some tell you straight. Some voluntarily kissed me (item in their menu) more to compensate for the rejection of my fantasies. But some where my heart started shouting, "
its not real". She is someone who needs money and I am just one of her customers. There is no real emotion flowing on both sides. I knew/read that it will be all made-up smiles even before I ventured into these acts. But first hand experience is a different feeling altogether. When you see it in reality, your motivation to go decreases considerably. No amount of reading/listening will do. The actual reality is the one you face on Monday mornings when you go to office. ...