Need advice

[Sammitt]

If the thought of your girlfriend being with other men makes you uncomfortable then your answer is clear, break it off before it gets any harder. Don't expect her to change, people are who they are and you have to accept them or find someone else; forcing someone else to change for you leads to resentment. It's great that she was honest with you, however, don't try to 'make the best' of a situation that's going to make you miserable, find one where you can be happy.

 

[Johnny O]

Karma comes in many forms and ways watch the jokes about a serious matter. Just wanted feedback from other experiences or things they have seen or heard in a similar situations.

 

[Mulva]

Well Johnny you are coming to a rather questionable place for advice. Just sayin....


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[ChubbyGuy]

From other forums such as this with the topic "Dating an MPA", 99% will say don't do it, it won't last.

 

[Roman]

If Johnny has had a frank discussion with his girlfriend, he knows all the facts of her job.
Then its up to you Johnny about your future plans with her.
Not sure any more posts will help.

 

[Johnny O]

From other forums such as this with the topic "Dating an MPA", 99% will say don't do it, it won't last.

I had no clue she was a MPA. Really trying to go thru the motions here.

 

[qinging]

I had no clue she was a MPA. Really trying to go thru the motions here.

OK Johnny O......you've heard the judges.....so don't milk it.

 

[Mulva]

Karma comes in many forms and ways watch the jokes about a serious matter. Just wanted feedback from other experiences or things they have seen or heard in a similar situations.

Funny you speak of karma Johnny. A month ago you were looking for advice on finding an mpa, yet you’ve been dating this wonderful woman for 3 months now. I could care less about your personal life, as I don’t know you, yet I love the irony!
Strange you also edited your original post a couple days ago.


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[imyourpuppet]

This is what I would do if I were in your shoes.
If I really liked the girl and saw a future with her I'd thank her for being honest. I'd give her an ultimatum - to continue dating me you will have to quit massage because I'm not comfortable with you playing with other guy's dicks. If she says yes then you know she's serious about you. If she says no then time to move on.

 

[ChubbyGuy]

This is what I would do if I were in your shoes.
If I really liked the girl and saw a future with her I'd thank her for being honest. I'd give her an ultimatum - to continue dating me you will have to quit massage because I'm not comfortable with you playing with other guy's dicks. If she says yes then you know she's serious about you. If she says no then time to move on.

Exactly...

 

[Hangdai]

This is what I would do if I were in your shoes.
If I really liked the girl and saw a future with her I'd thank her for being honest. I'd give her an ultimatum - to continue dating me you will have to quit massage because I'm not comfortable with you playing with other guy's dicks. If she says yes then you know she's serious about you. If she says no then time to move on.

That would make any decision easier, and hopefully the OP is very well off.
No lady making the good easy money will take a 80% pay cut. (MPA vs regular retail type job) unless the love of her life is willing to support her current lifestyle.
Plus, given that scenario, if she quits for love, the guy would definitely have to quit his hobby visits.

Forget it, it’s less than 1% chance a successful relationship could ever work.
A guys brain, since caveman days isn’t wired to share ladies with other men, and even if she quits, you’ll always wonder about what went on in that room?

 

[ChubbyGuy]

That would make any decision easier, and hopefully the OP is very well off.
No lady making the good easy money will take a 80% pay cut. (MPA vs regular retail type job) unless the love of her life is willing to support her current lifestyle.
Plus, given that scenario, if she quits for love, the guy would definitely have to quit his hobby visits.

Forget it, it’s less than 1% chance a successful relationship could ever work.
A guys brain, since caveman days isn’t wired to share ladies with other men, and even if she quits, you’ll always wonder about what went on in that room?

To me that the past is the past....I wouldn't want to know. Even with non-service providers, who knows how many guys she's slept with.

 

[Roman]

That would make any decision easier, and hopefully the OP is very well off.
No lady making the good easy money will take a 80% pay cut. (MPA vs regular retail type job) unless the love of her life is willing to support her current lifestyle.
Plus, given that scenario, if she quits for love, the guy would definitely have to quit his hobby visits.

Forget it, it’s less than 1% chance a successful relationship could ever work.
A guys brain, since caveman days isn’t wired to share ladies with other men, and even if she quits, you’ll always wonder about what went on in that room?

You bring up some good points about here. Theses girls get used to the big money and the lifestyle that goes with it.
Not easy for them to quit the business unless they find a sugar daddy.
Plus the guy has to quit going to spas as well....may not be easy to do either.

 

[qinging]

You bring up some good points about here. Theses girls get used to the big money and the lifestyle that goes with it.
Not easy for them to quit the business unless they find a sugar daddy.
Plus the guy has to quit going to spas as well....may not be easy to do either.

Money trumps like/love .

 

[Roman]

If you are going to fall in love, might just as well be someone with money!

 

[Hangdai]

If you are going to fall in love, might just as well be someone with money!

You mean the guy or the lady? Guess it could work either way.

 

[Jmac]

As an MPA myself, I gotta also advise you to let it go if it's already bothering you this much. I truly believe sex workers experience the best dating success if they partake in non monogamy. If that's not your nature, this girl is probably not the one for you.

No judgment. But can you share your reasoning for non monogamy (that is not sticking to one,i.e. more than one) leads to the best dating success? I'm lost. (not LostInnonence)

 

[LostInnocence]

No judgment. But can you share your reasoning for non monogamy (that is not sticking to one,i.e. more than one) leads to the best dating success? I'm lost. (not LostInnonence)

Ha!

 

[everythingiswarm]

As an MPA myself, I gotta also advise you to let it go if it's already bothering you this much. I truly believe sex workers experience the best dating success if they partake in non monogamy. If that's not your nature, this girl is probably not the one for you.

I dated a MPA for almost 2 years (we met in the biz though). I agree with what Ana Maria said about non-monogamy. You almost need to consider yourself in a poly relationship. If you're not comfortable with the thought of her enjoying the company of other people it's going to be difficult for you.

 

[Sybarite]

I didn't say for overall dating success. I said for sex workers and someone dating a sex worker. We are already seeing multiple people so you need to be someone comfortable with that to accept a sex worker as a partner. I couldn't be with someone who's non monogamous for reasons that 1) I've been non monogamous even before I started this and 2) I couldn't date someone who didn't accept me 100%. And yes that means my job too. blind love doesn't trump anything for me.

Feel free to look up polyamory and non monogamy if you're interested in learning more about this alternative lifestyle. Goes against most of the norms society has taught us about relationships but I don't think I could ever live any other way again lol

What you say makes a lot of sense Ana Maria. Thanks for sharing.

I presume you actually meant to say "I couldn't be with someone who's monogamous for reasons that 1) I've been non monogamous..."