Thought I’d add my input
I havnt read all the other replies on here (though I probably should)
A massage I find is the most important and best way to start a great time. Unless told other wise because everyone is different. However, a massage helps you find where a man likes to be touched, what spots make him squirm and if he’s more of the sensual type or aggressive. It also helps you build a connection. It most importantly shows how good of a tease you are which I feel is a great quality to have in this industry. After all we want all them to long for more. It’s never a waste of time to the right gentlemen!
And the shy guys are never really that shy if you treat them right. When you reach the right level of intimacy people start saying things they didn’t know how to before.
As far as extras go a lot of these men have been to other places and know how things work, others may need a push into the right direction
lol I find they usually ask you if you’ve got them going enough lol