I am an MPA and my first thoughts would have been:
1) Did he not shower?
2) Is this a fetish session or is he mentally ill? Before you lambast me for considering the latter, remember that I have seen things at work that cannot be unseen. I work at a high end spa and we regularly have mentally ill clients including autistics, pedophiles, psychopaths as well as homeless men.
3) Doubtfulness about if that thing was clean, veering towards not = Iโm going to avoid touching you because I DONโT KNOW YOU, SIR.
FYI EVERY TIME I have come into the room and the guy was wearing his underwear, he either hadnโt showered +/ stank +/ was weird/hiding something (usually warts).
This is not only my experience - we all get weirded out when we walk in and youโre rocking anything other than the towel or nothing at all and it is something we bring up when weโre talking about you to each other.
Also, back to front is not hygienic and most men do not know how to pace or be gentle when it comes to our asses/assholes. I used to allow some play back there but after being scratched and having a finger shoved in dry multiple times by multiple different clients, I no longer allow clients anywhere near it. Again, this is not just my experience.
You seem to be a little off, considering that both men and women are telling you why you had a bad session yet you continue to double down on what you did, and you continued to try to escalate sexually when she was giving clear signals of not being comfortable.
We donโt have to accept or love or be comfortable with everything you do or everything you request in the room.
The only thing you are guaranteed at a spa is a massage and whatever finish is standard at that spa. We *do not* have to kiss you, allow DATY/digits/DATO/etc.
Everything else is based on you. Itโs not rocket science and you need to do some serious self reflection.