Setting Time Boundaries...Need Help!

[Deo Maskey]

That's a great suggestion EM, but being the captain of my own ship for so long..how would I start? Someone suggested I do that , teaching others the modality I have kind of developed for myself and I kind of brushed it off.
But I do get asked to show others. hmmm..


I wouldn't know where to begin! :shock:

 

[Bob A]

This is a very interesting thread. Have you gotten a better handle on this since you first wrote?

All the suggestions are great ones. And now I feel bad about picking my teachers brain when I go in for sessions. No more of that.

I have a few clients who are very needy. Some days I can book clients 15 minutes apart because they are in and out. Some clients I have to schedule in 2 hours! That is ridiculous and I know it. They lay on the table for 15 minutes, they go to the bathroom, they talk and take 10 minutes to write out a check. It is disrepectful in a sense because they know I have to get to another job OR hey, maybe I just want to get home to my darling child. One client laid on the table for 20 minutes, when she came out she said she didn't feel like getting up. Sure.... and I feel like being at the office till 9 at niht. :shock:

On the same idea.... if someone does that, should we suggest that possibly they book longer time if they want to spend extra time laying on the table? That would go over good. :

 

[Baldrick]

One client laid on the table for 20 minutes, when she came out she said she didn't feel like getting up.

Good god. I'm not that patient - if it's been 3-4 minutes I'm knocking on the door. I mean it can be done nicely - "Are you OK in there? Yes? OK, then it's time to bring your consciousness back into your body, so you can get up and drive safely."

Wait, are these people who are being worked on in their own homes? Hmm, not sure how to solve that one if so. I mean it IS totally disrespectful of your time, but I can see how a client might be thinking they can do what they like in their own home.

 

[Reverse_Thread_Wing_Nut]

No, I don't do out calls. They are in the office.

 

[dixonrs]

Hi!

I basically wrote what Blisss suggested below. You have no idea how good that felt to send it and make that boundary firm.

You would be surprised at how many fellow practitioners who I have as clients respected this and acknowledged that they need to do this in their own practice too. And you would also be surprised at how much the clients who go over, know they are and like getting all that time and attention without paying for it! :

This is what we came up with in here. Feel free to change the wording around to suit your issue. I had a client lay on my table for minutes and then use the bathroom, chat etc. I get those too. These are the people I need to get the message across too. I had one woman actually ask me if I had some food, said her blood sugar was low and sat down to eat and talk.
Amazing.

But it's my fault really, I backed myself into this corner.

"Recently, I've been blessed with an increase in business. One side effect of such a blessing is that my time & energy reserves are being pushed to their limits. This means I need to plan my days accordingly, to be sure I can be energized and fully present for every client.

Although I enjoy our conversations before & after appointments, I now need to limit such conversations to 10 minutes before & after appointments. If you have questions that require longer conversations,
I'm now offering mentoring sessions at $__ for a 30 minute session & $__ for an hour session.

If you would like to add a mentoring session to your next appointment, please let me know."