Therapies for Stressed out Husband

[Imran M]

Hi everyone,
My hubby is suffering form stress in a bad way, he is been self employed for the last 4 years and cannot switch off from work. He says he even dreams about it at night. He feels like he's going to implode on himself, like its destroying him from the inside out and everyone else is being made tosuffer around him. He has suffered from depression in the past, but this is under control with Ciprimil. Basically he needs to find a way of learning to switch off

I am a massage therapist and give him lots of massages, but I think he needs something elese but don't know what to suggest. Can anyone recommend any therapies which can help him learn to switch off and relax?
xxx

 

[idodgesubs]

The doc has his meds under control and you are providing the holistic therapy, so maybe he just needs a couple of hours a week to be someone other than breadwinner/husband, etc.
T'ai chi or yoga are great for switching off because you have to listen to the instructions and concentrate on what you are doing and the energy boost from them is great.
However, when I was in a very very stressful place I didn't even consider t'ai chi as I couldn't stand the thought of doing something really slowly when I could be doing something 'better' (ie, working or worrying) so I went to Line Dancing lessons. It gave me some of the exercise I needed to burn off the adrenaline and all that counting to 8, grapevine shuffle kick stuff meant I didn't have enough brain left overto think about the gas bill. A friend uses kick boxing in the same way, she has to forget her worries and concentrate on what she is doing or she literally gets a kick up the ***!

I suppose what I'm really rambling on about here is to find him some enjoyable downtime to get his head out of work things.
Good luck, sending reiki hugs to you both.

 

[Linda J]

I agree, Tai Chi and Yoga can be really helpful if he can find the time. Even doing yoga for a short time everyday (15 mins to start) or even some breathing exercises or meditation can give very positive results.

It will also empower your husband and give him a method that he can use whenever he feels the need to make himself feel better.

Reiki is also extremely relaxing and beyond this can be used to treat the causes of stress or depression. Every client I have treated for stress has felt considerably better after just one treatment.

Why not try and find a Reiki practitioner in your area.

Hope this helps

Blessings
Donna.xx.

 

[Questioner]

I woudl recommend things like time line therapy, hypnosis, breathing and state management techniques - am happy to talk more if you are interested ;-)

 

[gzirxvej]

Hi Peppermintmoon,

Reflexology can be great for reducing stress levels!! I am a reflexologist, but i regularly go to other practitioners to receive treatments as it is so relaxing and stress busting (we all need help with stress in this day and age.)

You should tell your husband to give it a go........you can find practitioners who work in your areaon the AOR website and also [link=http://www.findareflexologist.com]www.findareflexologist.com[/link](and also not forgetting HP!)

I also agree with Therapy heaven, Yoga and T'ai Chi are great ways to reduce stress levels and chill out, and once you have been to a few classes and learnt the basics you can do all of the postures at home for a real energy boost in the morning, or before bed to calm and relax the body and mind.

I'm sure your husband will find a therapy that's right for him.

Good luck
Kate

 

[Tom Smith]

Hi,

I know this story so well.

What has helped my husband is twice a week no matter how busy we are he goes out on his mountain bike, the fresh air and exercise
does him so much good and allows him to cope with his business worries much better.

Hope he feels better soon.

 

[Artie]

I would ask what it is he believes will happen if/when he switches off?

There may be some underlying belief he has about his cicumstances that when dealt with will allow him to relax and enjoy being in the 'now', rather than constantly stressing about what else he perhaps believes he should be doing.............

As noted above already, Time Line Therapy is the best method I know of for dealing with such a situation and if combined with NLP/Hypnotherapy can deal with such a situation swiftly...... then some of the relaxation techniques for de-stressing, will be all the more effective as he will allow himself to enjoy them .......

Nig