What level of touching is appropriate?

[Shou74292]

I was in Lion bar one night and this guy about 70 came in and one of the young BG's was hitting on him. I was sitting with Gee and I pointed it out to her, she just rolled her eyes and then the 70 year old just basically used his finger, and looked at the girl.

I felt sorry for her until 30 seconds later i saw them both leaving together. He had paid her bf. I mentioned it to Gee, who just shrugged her shoulders.

Not sure what I am saying here, but it looks to me like if they are desperate anything goes, for myself I hope I never get to that seforum.xxxe.

 

[CHRISTINE I]

Do take note of the 'accepted' in public places though. Not patronizing here but Thailand, Philippines and other countries take a very dim view of any display of affection, including holding hands. And yes the police can get involved even if the other party is a willing participant.

As for bars then its best to go there and feel your way, no pun intended.

 

[Michael Chauncey]

Actually I figure that is one of the things you should not do absent a clear invitation (she puts your hand there).

 

[kristinhah]

Do as I say, not as ................


Good Idea! 55555

 

[Semper Callide]

at the end of the day they are women.

i think that it's just plain disrespectul whether they are a bargirl or any other girl. just because that is their profession doesn't mean that they don't deserve respect.

 

[HaNnAh <3]

Buy them a drink first ...You can really do what you want,hands anywhere...If the girl gets rewarded she will tolerate an awful lot.
Most long term expats don't give a rats what the girls think of them.:na:
If you feel uncomfortable just don't do it, but in the long run a gentleman comes out better off.

 

[teresathegreat]

Right on. It does earn you a lot of brownie points if you show respect to her in front of others almost regardless of the animal you might be in private.

 

[Coastal Doc]

first time in pattaya, at a beer bar and asked the girl who was giving the hard sell if i could try before i buy, no problem she said and she grabbed my hand and put it in the sushi bar(toothless gerry adams) where i had a good explore, i did then take her long time, so it worked well all round. few beer bars in pattaya girls have pulled me off a bit, and its hard to say no with a raging stonker in your shorts. good fishing technique that one.:

 

[Whats Up Doc]

I might come of as a pompous jerk but:

I think either:
A) I must have gotten laid a lot more than some people I'm my life before coming to LOS
B)I am just that sexually needy

Because I've never felt the need or urge to feel some girl up in a bar, or take nude pictures of girls or anything else that reeks of desperation I see on this board at times!!

 

[Pompal 09.]

Please elaborate ....

 

[Pompal 09.]

The thread has given me a fair sort of "feel" of what might be acceptable / appropriate. I guess that as a first time visitor I get quite nervous about the lady boys and would want to be as sure as possible that the person I am talking to was born female!

 

[S23]

As a 17 time visitor that makes me (a little bit) nervous too.

 

[Shaylon G]

are you really that homophobic that you can't talk to a ladyboy???...they are people too and can be loads of fun to talk to....if you mean you don't wanna sleep with one fair enough but hell you ain't gonna die just talking to one

 

[molloyboy3]

Haha
Fruedian slip

I meant that maybe I'm not that sexually needy

 

[RANDALL]

I don't think he was coming across as homophobic, he just doesn't want to be pissed and take home a tall one by mistake. I agree that there are better ways then just grabbing their ***** in public though. Just go to the right bars and talk to the mamasan for starters.

 

[rhodecol]

Nothing pompous about that. I have never felt the urge to 'feel someone up' in a bar in Thailand, but it doesn't mean I'm not a sex maniac with huge sexual needs (not saying I am) or that I do or don't get laid outside of Thailand..

To feel girls up in the bars surley isn't about being 'sexual needy' as that, for most guys who would do that in Thailand beer bars??

 

[x-musiclover-x]

As nelson says, visit a gogo bar if you want a bit more full on experience or just a lurid feel.

Surprised me the first time how different it was to beer bars. You could say they are a little more aggressive......... in the nicest possible way of course.....

 

[Summer]

just tell the wifey you need to get a massage. you have all the fun you want unless she wants to go with you lol. i thought it was rude to grope the bar girls unless they initiated

 

[LgTuttle]

Come to think of it, probably best to spend a little time in observation. If the girl you grope happens to be the wife of the owner or (god forbid) wife of a tuk tuk driver then you might get more than you bargained for.

do tuk tuk driver have wives?

 

[beki z]

no, tuk tuk drivers are all monks..... saints in fact.:wai: