Question Why is your regular your regular

[Leo44]

10.... they usually have 20 or more.

 

[Spartan2020]

Connection doesn't mean taking her home to meet the parents. Or exclusive. I think it means chemistry VS mechanical. I'm sure we've all had the MP that looked amazing but the sex was very mechanical. It's like the Asian MP that whispers in your ear, OH Baby, OH Baby...it just sounds rehearsed.

 

[UsefulIdiot]

I agree that regular does not equate to exclusive. My regular has told me that there are 3 others in the same category as me. Which means the number is closer to 10 in reality.

Also, everything is temporary. There is one popular one out there that I saw every 2 weeks for several years. She has now dropped out of my regular rotation for no reason other than i found some new and exciting others. She's still amazing when I do see her. It's just too predictable at this point.

We get blinded by our needs. Reality eventually kicks in. Both clients and SWs can be quite fickle. But that "in spa love" is great when it happens, for however long it lasts.

 

[Darke Steele]

I find the hard thing is how they take you for granted after awhile. Instead of getting priority service and jumping the queue, some regulars ask me to move my schedule to accommodate a client who just walked in.

That is happening with my fave right now. But so far, she responds by giving me extra time and attention. So I'm okay with it.

But now that you mention it, that's what happened with my previous favourite. So perhaps, that's the reason that my disinterest started. These women should understand that they are giving us the fantasy of being special. We know that we're not at the logical level. But when the reality hits us in the face, it becomes time for a new fantasy.

I keep several favourites in rotation with my #1 so that a new #1 can emerge as needed.

Thanks for the conversation boys. It's nice to know I'm not the only sick pig out there.

 

[eyeswideshut]

From what I learned in this crazy hobby, there is no such thing as a "connection" between attendant and client and if there is, It's just temporary..

I guess you've never had one then. I'm not sure if the correct response is "I'm sorry" or "your lucky"

We get blinded by our needs. Reality eventually kicks in. Both clients and SWs can be quite fickle. But that "in spa love" is great when it happens, for however long it lasts.

I don't think of a connection as "in spa love" but more like a spark/chemistry. Sometimes its as simple as seeing her eyes light up when you walk in

But your both right - like most things in life it's usually temporary

 

[Leo44]

I find the hard thing is how they take you for granted after awhile. Instead of getting priority service and jumping the queue, some regulars ask me to move my schedule to accommodate a client who just walked in.

You got the point, they do take you for granted after a while. This is the reason i said that it is better to be the new guy than the regular guy because they all tend to offer less as time progress, for instance, if MSOG, DFK and DATY were offered at the beginning they will slowly disappear from the menu to the point that they are no longer there.

 

[Leo44]

That is happening with my fave right now. But so far, she responds by giving me extra time and attention. So I'm okay with it.

But now that you mention it, that's what happened with my previous favourite. So perhaps, that's the reason that my disinterest started. These women should understand that they are giving us the fantasy of being special. We know that we're not at the logical level. But when the reality hits us in the face, it becomes time for a new fantasy.

I keep several favourites in rotation with my #1 so that a new #1 can emerge as needed.

Thanks for the conversation boys. It's nice to know I'm not the only sick pig out there.

My comments on this thread were my opinion based on several years of hobbying, which, based on my experience, I concluded that having a regular is not a good choice. At the end, you make your choice, it is your time and $.

It takes sometime to realize that the best way to have more fun out of this hobby is to rotate the favs and finding a new fav. The latter is the key because you might find a better girl than the ones you already have in your roster; the big decision that you have to make is which fav is going to be demoted

 

[Spawarrior99]

Have been at this hobby for a few years now and as for "Regulars", I find that all of them have differences as to why I like them.
Connection
Between 2 people is hard thing to quantify!
In my mind, , it's because she does a better job connecting than others do. And that may in the form of conversation or to the way she nibbles my ear lobes or anything between. It's just a very hard thing to quantify person to person.

As of recent, I have been trying some new spas out and find I and U wellness to be pretty dam good.
Now if I become a regular there for her or not, just depends on her level of acceptance.
IMO, the best spa girls have this in spades...

 

[Chris Rockman]

My comments on this thread were my opinion based on several years of hobbying, which, based on my experience, I concluded that having a regular is not a good choice. At the end, you make your choice, it is your time and $.

It takes sometime to realize that the best way to have more fun out of this hobby is to rotate the favs and finding a new fav. The latter is the key because you might find a better girl than the ones you already have in your roster; the big decision that you have to make is which fav is going to be demoted

I think that trying new things and making changes can lead to growth in any hobby. It's wonderful that you've had the courage to share your experiences and insights with others. Finding a fresh perspective or a new favorite can bring about exciting outcomes. Don't hesitate to share your joy with everyone here.

 

[Petron-us]

IMO, You cant make a horse drink water or a John if he still prefers his regular or is too crazy to know what he does want. Set a pail of water or a finely tuned shill thread beside him, tell him how good it is and why, AND LEAVE HIM ALONE!
If the John wants to get drunk, there is, so far as I know, no way of stopping this ----- so leave them alone and let them get drunk on the spa girl.
But don't exclude him from the pail either"

So you think spas, incalls, girls, all should be happy with drunken clients?

It must be disappointing to you that it doesn’t work that way.

 

[goodtogo1962]

I have and have had many favorites in my 25 + years in the hobby. When you open up with someone over a few visits you get to know the person behind the performer. I have one that has been my favorite for over 10 years and we have a hug and formal greeting and I have a shower and get ready.

When she comes in we have a quick catch up and exchange topics,then she asks me to flip and she gets quiet and has a routine that she has which has 2 options for me and her to choose. Then usually after my pleasure we continue our chat until I have to leave or she has to go because someone else is waiting for her.

I and her are aware that it is a business transaction but we can have a conversation aside from the business. There is also just knowing what you need and not being disappointed with visiting someone who is not going to deliver. It is nice knowing where you can go to get what you need and interact with an attractive woman and leave with a smile on your face and a hop in your step.


We always have to remember that as humans it is our responsibility to make life for everyone around us as easy as possible and getting that in return is hard to find but is a blessing in disguise.

 

[Ambler]

I find the hard thing is how they take you for granted after awhile. Instead of getting priority service and jumping the queue, some regulars ask me to move my schedule to accommodate a client who just walked in.

The credo goes: A bird in hand is worth two in the bush. So your fave is not thinking this through. What's a hawk worth? Move on and let her figure it out.

 

[Spawarrior99]

I have and have had many favorites in my 25 + years in the hobby. When you open up with someone over a few visits you get to know the person behind the performer. I have one that has been my favorite for over 10 years and we have a hug and formal greeting and I have a shower and get ready.

When she comes in we have a quick catch up and exchange topics,then she asks me to flip and she gets quiet and has a routine that she has which has 2 options for me and her to choose. Then usually after my pleasure we continue our chat until I have to leave or she has to go because someone else is waiting for her.

I and her are aware that it is a business transaction but we can have a conversation aside from the business. There is also just knowing what you need and not being disappointed with visiting someone who is not going to deliver. It is nice knowing where you can go to get what you need and interact with an attractive woman and leave with a smile on your face and a hop in your step.


We always have to remember that as humans it is our responsibility to make life for everyone around us as easy as possible and getting that in return is hard to find but is a blessing in disguise.

I have to say my last 25 years has been pretty dam good.. Mostly civies though!
Your 3rd statement is crucial and most appreciated because that's I how I see things as well.
What really matters is at that moment in time when the spa guy and girl get together, she has the capacity to give her best efforts.

The thread is about faves and that means you keep going to see her so she has already become a worship so to speak.
Not many but a few times i recall, and even with a few fave's here and there. the whole, became less than usual.
What a state of mental gooseflesh are spa girls right?

These spa girls can become the tissue out of which our lives are constructed.
Sometimes these feelings for a fave determine the course of our existence.

Gratitude should go forward rather than backward.

 

[Spawarrior99]

We were sure this spa girl wants to see us happy, and content. Hence, we cannot subscribe to the belief that whatever spa girl is a vale of frustration and wasted money. for a few,
Though it was once just that for many of us, she saved the day on a 3rd visit.
We needed to ask ourselves but one short question: Do I now believe she is this good?
As soon as a man can say that he does believe, even in this small degree, or is willing to believe in this spa girl, we emphatically assure him that he is on his way.

 

[Deleted member 101953]

You got the point, they do take you for granted after a while. This is the reason i said that it is better to be the new guy than the regular guy because they all tend to offer less as time progress, for instance, if MSOG, DFK and DATY were offered at the beginning they will slowly disappear from the menu to the point that they are no longer there.

That's because they already know what you are into..and for them, it's now like an annoying chore..It's also like you are married to your current wife for how many years? And your wife is now disgusted at seeing the sight of you (especially during sex) cause she already knows what you intend to do to her on the first move..So I think it's the same kind of thing with MPA/SPs and client..and the sexual tension between both parties start to slowly fade out

 

[Spawarrior99]

Another thing about regulars is, 1- They ick up on a certain thing you say and repeat that to you.
How many times have I laughed when she said something that I had said before? It's great when a spa girl remembers.
And as the crow flies, she incorporates this into the spa visit. Add a few munchies into the mix and shazam!
You got yourself a regular!
But beware!!!!!!
Regulars can get lazy, even after 60 visits. No issues there! This is life......
So if you find yourself with your regular and its not the same as it was after the 1st, 2nd or 3rd visit. No worries mate!
Go back and see her none the less. I and U.
Put the shrimp on the barbie. This woman is for real!

 

[UsefulIdiot]

For me, wish the "in love with an MPA" would last a good two years but i'd be broke AF by then..

In life it is pretty rare to make such a good connection. It is worth exploring it if you do.

As for regulars who are good but not amazing, I think the whole experience is variable. See them too much and at least one of you loses interest. Take a few months or longer off and you can reignite the flame. Maybe Sasa in Spring, Summer in summer, Autumn in Fall and Wendy in winter and then back to Sasa.

 

[Deleted member 101953]

In life it is pretty rare to make such a good connection. It is worth exploring it if you do.

As for regulars who are good but not amazing, I think the whole experience is variable. See them too much and at least one of you loses interest. Take a few months or longer off and you can reignite the flame. Maybe Sasa in Spring, Summer in summer, Autumn in Fall and Wendy in winter and then back to Sasa.

That's a lot of regulars..What's your secret?

 

[UsefulIdiot]

That's a lot of regulars..What's your secret?

Sorry I meant that as an example. These days I am on a break from the hobby for reasons I will not go into. If I see anyone it is my favorite of all time, Cici.

Before this chapter in my life I visited many different spas. Eventually I met women that I wanted to repeat with. Some of those became regulars. I found the best regulars at Fantasy Spa and E-Spa. My advice is read reviews, try many different SWs and venues, and be friendly and respectful, give sincere compliments. Eventually you find women that you have chemistry with. Work the numbers.

 

[Spawarrior99]

Sometimes a regular has keys to the spa and can come an go as she prefers. Some alphas have that.
some alphas are dam worth your while dudes.
if you have any question, go to her house , lunch date, dinner date, or other. as long as its good for u.. ur in.
Her.....