Queens and Princesses
Recently there has been some discussion on how it's difficult to score with the top girls of a bar and how the 2nd tier gives better service. I have a little disagreement with this line of thought. I believe the quality of service has nothing to do with the looks of the girl but it totally depends on your chemistry with the girl and her personality traits. What is true is that the top girls won't come easy. Now, I am no playboy casanova but I have had good success with girls and here I would like to share a few pointers on how to get them. Others may add their views too.
Think of the game of cards. The hand that is dealt to you is not in your control, it's just what you got. But how you use that hand to play your game is entirely up to you. While it's great to have a good hand, It's not enough to ensure victory. Sometimes if you don't play your game right you'll lose in-spite of having the best possible hand. It's the same case with bar girls or any girl for that matter. How good looking you are, how much money you have, how attractive your natural persona is… these are like the hand that's been dealt to you and you can do little to change that. With this given whether or not you win the girl depends entirely on how you play your game with her. Here are somethings that you should and shouldn't do:
Rule 1: Never show desperation. Retain your negotiation power.
Rule 2: Show that rewards are great but create competition. Let it be a challenge for her.
Rule 3: Two steps forward, one step back. Keep her hooked on to you. (If she's not easy to get, neither should you be)
How to apply the above rules? Here's a case study. (While the case below is spread over several days you can also do it in one single visit if you get the idea)
Sonali is beyond doubt the best girl at Saigeet, my most recent playground. The first time I hit the bar (after a long gap) I noticed her giving me cold shoulder. She would raise her chin, sway her hairs and not look straight at me. She did notice me as a potential customer but she wanted me to make the move and call her over. I didn't do that. Not in the 2nd or the 3rd visit either. All this time I was having a great time with other girls. With all the spending I have established myself as a great catch and yet I have not turned my attention to the number 1 girl there. But if I continued ignoring her for too long, she'd have lost interest in me, simply tagging me as a looser who doesn't deserve her (top girls, understandably have an attitude). On my 4th visit I ask the captain to bring me the best dancer they have knowing exactly who he'll get. When Sonali came over I called her near and said, "Sonali, right?" She acted surprised that I already know her name. This was my two steps forward, letting her know that I have noticed her. My next question to her, "You know how to dance?" was my one step back. Because she's proud to be the most sought after dancer and I just told her that while I may have noticed her but not really. After her dance performance (which earned her a generous tip) I called her close and asked, "How long can you keep dancing?". Her reply doesn't matter. This question was just to let her know that I am not a one-dance guy and it's worth investing in me. Next I called her friend, Kiran, standing next to her (she's danced for me twice before and was waiting for her turn) and tipped her too. After my two steps forward, of breaking the ice with the top girl and telling her that I have big plans for her, this was my one step back by maintaining competition.
The last couple of weeks I've not been able to visit the bar but I know how things will go if it goes my way. When you go to a bar and seek out a little known girl it makes her feel special and she loves you for making her feel that way. But if you go out seeking out the queen - nothing. It's just another day at work for her. She should simple be passing by when I am having a good time and I pull her in. This way her ego stays intact without me bending over for her. Next I fulfill my promise of making her dance till she can't move her legs anymore and I end the day with a dance performance by Pooja my favorite girl @ Saigeet.
Hope this tip helps fellow mongers achieve greater success. Let the games begin!
-DH