dilemma

[Phil G]

im 53 and i know fcuk all--

 

[ally_girl22]

Hello IreMark,

I have to say I did take the time to read all of the posting back and forth on this subject, I found most of it to be pretty trivial at best. Who knows maybe you did too for that matter, but you did make me stop and think for a few minutes today...Honestly in my 40+ years I have not found this magical answer, but it seems that you have.

So please do share what a relationship is, I am curious as to what you would say on the subject..maybe I missed something along the way, that aparantly you were able to grasp onto the true meaning of this word.

 

[Pompal 09.]

Hi iremark,
I wish i was still 20 years old and starry- eyed.
I would like to see what your feelings are in another 20 years when youv'e lived a little bit and had a few more experiences.
I'm not knocking you mate. Just an observation.

Stay cool. :cheergal:

 

[Lis]

I know I have not been through marriage but I have been in a 3 year relationship and I am currently in an 18 month relationship but I would not refer to myself as starry eyed or oblivious to the adult world. The above comment about paying for sex in some way or another is just really stupid iin my opinion
and I believe it to be a really bad attitude to have towards a relationship.

 

[Lillyyyy]

I said he has no real experience of being single as he has been in relationships since he was 14 until now, Not that he has no experience of life in general, I also said that I had the exact same outlook on some of the things he said when I was 19, I am not making any judgements on his relationship at all as I have been in quite a few myself even though I am only 23 but believe me there is a very big difference in the person I am now to the one I was at 19, A lot of shit happened to me in that time and I have matured a lot since then and I also believed I was really mature at 19, If you knew me then you would not think I was the same person today.

And I agree there is a lot of good and bad things about relationships, But at the moment I dont want any part in them as I enjoy my life the way it is now and I also need a bit of time away from them to get a better understanding of them, As the last one fu*ked my head up big time, That does not mean to say that I never want to be in a relationship again, I have all intentions of finding a nice girl and settling down and have a few kids and all the rest, But not right now as I have plenty of time for that later, Now at this moment in my life im going to have my fun first [/QUOTE

AliB:
I totally agree with what you are saying about wanting to have fun before you settle down. I think anyone who gets married straight out of uni is focked in the head. Live life and enjoy your younger years for everything they can be. Then when you are ready settle down and become what you want to. I too have been focked over by a few women in the past but I played it out and in the end I had my fun time and now have found the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. I think that after a while any man will get sick of the singles life style and want to settle down. Unitl you are at that point than just enjoy it.
You sound like you have some wisdom of the ways of the world. Likely a lot wiser than I was at 23. I just wanted to bump and grind with anything in a skirt!!
You will know when the right time is, trust me, I did. Will I miss the single life? Sure the sex part and freedom was great. But building your life with someone and creating a future is something that can be even more satisfying.

All the best to you two young blokes,

Cheers,

Ashley

 

[Pompal 09.]

What about the emotional commitment ( payment ??)
What about the loss of your freedom? ( payment ??)
Payment can be more than just monetary.

 

[Wanderer]

I think Ally and IreMark have both made good some good points in their posts.

The only thing that I have 'not liked' is the tennis match about the age.

To me, the age is not important in building an argument. Using EXPERIENCE is.

Asking each other WHY they think the way the do is the key to understanding someone elses point of view - it doesnt mean you have to agree with it.

Iremark, it would be a shame to stop putting your point of view across because you think a lot of people might disagree with you. Just because 10 people might disagree, doesnt mean they are right

You told us WHY you didnt like prostitution - because you think it is degrading, disrespectful and you are strongly against it.

Now its up to others to let you know why they disagree.

Keep posting Mark. Tell us about some of the good things you have liked about thailand

 

[Xynephadyn]

I choose to be emotionally committed, I love her.
Loss of freedom? I can go out and get pissed with the lads anyime I want this isnt a problem, I have NO restrictions other than ****ing a load of bar girls which is something I dont want to do.


If I didnt have them views above I would not be in a relationship, I am in a relationship because I choose to be, its good for me and its making me happy if it was not good for me or if it was bringing me down I would not be in it.

You are referring to relationships like they are prison sentences. If you view them that way you are better off staying single.

 

[Calm-A-Llama-Down]

Normally the MINIMUM it costs you is your SANITY

 

[christianman]

Back in March 2000 I found a superstar at Pink Panther got talking to her and she wanted 4k for LT I declined but she was the best looking girl I've seen in LOS for a while.

In BKK the better looking gogo girls are all asking 3k LT or 1500 ST inflation is upon us gents.

 

[Jude]

Still enough 1kers for me in Patong

 

[Smurfetta]

dont get me wrong mate if your happy with your relationship good for you and im sure every one on this board will be pleased for you.
HOWEVER be you a man or woman wait untill you have lived with someone for a few years ,fcuk me i dont care what any one tell you it changes and all the little love tokens ,and yes i said tokens (after all what is a token but a form of credit for the exchange of)add up to no more than a payment.
i lived with my Farang ex for way to long ,cost me a fecking fortune and i dont mean cash wise ,i nearly lost my sanity(some may say i have)
i may sound bitter and twisted ,but im not well ok may be a bit twisted but i have no intension of making the same mistakes i made in the past ever again.
still i assume you had a lovely valentines day

 

[Emerald]

I have to agree to agree LOL

According to my dictionary, a forum...

fo·rum ( P ) Pronunciation Key (fôrm, fr-)
n. pl. fo·rums, also fo·ra (fôr, fr)
1. The public square or marketplace of an ancient Roman city that was the assembly place for judicial activity and public business.
2. A public meeting place for open discussion.
3. A medium of open discussion or voicing of ideas, such as a newspaper or a radio or television program.
4. A public meeting or presentation involving a discussion usually among experts and often including audience participation.
5. A court of law; a tribunal.

Not too sure about being a Roman, but number 2 should sum it up nicely.

Cheers
Diz

 

[Sporty]

As I posted my opinion and Iremark called it (or me) plain dump I did not want to continue. I am old and wise enough to not continue discussions like that. That's why I never enter in discussions with Americans about Iraq. We differ too much and I respect everybody's opinion, I will even fight so that they can vent their opinion as a French filosopher JJ Rouseau said. That is democracy.
Now I say buebye as I am leaving in 2½hours for LOS.
See you all

 

[B.E.inspired]

i dont think he said "plain dump"--i think it was "plain dumb"-----have a great time in los captain !!

 

[nextGREAT1]

Ok we will see how it pans out for me but I dont expect to have the same attitude...and valentines day wasnt nice or anything because I dont acknowledge HALLMARK holidays. I didnt buy her anything although she got me something

Have a nice day sluts!

 

[Witches]

I agree we all pay for sex no matter where it is was in last time i was in patong was 2000 was there during off season and you had a great choice and could have a laugh bargaining . and it was alot cheaper than what it cost me for divorce lol

 

[? Mrs. D?]

For me this is fair, and i hope that is so when iam there in less than 13 days now, Yee Hah grand mar.
Steveski

 

[goo_head_83]

So true Eric.
Iremark, you have a firm attitude to your relationship and I wish you well.
However, you have experienced nothing yet.You haven't got a clue what happens in a relationship as the years tick by. I got married to my second wife while you were still filling your nappies, we are still together, and yes you do indirectly pay for your pleasures. Trust me I know.

 

[BritneyM]

So true mate....