Does sex get boring in a long term relationship?

[Gaaaaaaaaaaz]

3 if any of your married girlfriends want out of the box, I'm more than happy to help! Seriously, hook a brotha up!:tongue:

Single, divorced, separated, widowed ladies are welcome!

 

[Sludge]

After a few beers I hang in there and don't ask questions.

 

[businessman95]

Didnt you two meet on an elevator or something?:

 

[icefire_13]

Taking her to adult shops once a month will do it.



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[suszcza]

You BOTH have to keep it exciting.......sorry to say this but all guys blame the women, they don't do this, they don't do that.....ever think that there's things that us guys use to do but don't so anymore?

What about things we never did, but now we do, like farting freely, and stuffing her head under the covers, did ya do that when you were dating?...maybe that grosses her out.

Having just time alone without the kids and work, a weekend away, a night out.......

 

[Pompal 09.]

It can, of course. But as several others have said, BOTH individuals need to put forth an effort. If that is being done, and both are into a lil bit of experimentation, things can stay steamy for a VERY long time!

 

[shootscuz23]

2 multi-year relationships, and a few 1ish year things. In my experience, yes sex does slow down.

In the 1ish year relationships, the sex didn't really slow down until things were pretty much done.

In the multi-year relationships my sexual frequency took a tumble in the 2.5 - 3.5 year range. In the early part of any relationship I was always a 1 and 1 guy. Jerk off once a day, and have sex once a day (less during her period). When things slowed down I was still jerking off once a day, but sex dropped off to maybe once or twice a week. In both cases we still loved each other, just sex became less of a priority. When I start dating somebody, and I think a lot of guys are like this, you pretty much have as much sex as you can like a starving man who found a free hotdog stand. Then you kind of settle in to a more normal routine. This is lots of fun, and there's lots of exploring, and you get really good at getting each other off. Some years go by and then it just kind of tapers down.

Personally, I wouldn't worry about it unless the sex stopped, or the sex isn't mutually satisfactory. In my case, it was also about this time when 'sex with anybody else' started becoming more of a pull. It's just that I'm the sort of person who's dumb enough to (try to, with some failure,) obey a vow of monogamy. At this point I actually avoid anything too serious, just because I'm having a decent amount of sex / fun without that, and because I don't want to make promises I'd have a hard time keeping.

When the 'taper down' really starts, and what it tapers down to, really depends on the people involved. I have a fairly recently married friend, who was only really having sex a couple of times a week when things were hot and heavy, and now they're down to once every couple of months. You can tell he sincerely loves his wife, and he's OK with that. I wouldn't be, but YMMV.

 

[Debra Jonasz]

Getting a hotel room once a month even if it's in your own city does wonders to spice it up. Don't forget to buy a bubbly and chocolates.

 

[saved1986]

Absolutely.....doesn't matter where it is, just do it.

 

[unboundedjoy]

All the best sex I have had in my life has been with long term relationships.

The exception being with my ex wife. But thinking back on it now that was most likely largely my fault as I wasn't really listening to her cues.

I was young and way to self centred. Oh well live and learn I suppose.

The more I'm with a woman the more relaxed I become. And as a matter of fact I also seem to appreciate her for who she is both physically and emotionally.

The longer the better for me.

 

[.x.Emma.x.]

Well said dude.

 

[shain r]

I agree it takes two to tango and when one shows a little disinterest the other should try and change up the routine. If both would do this throughout the relationship then things would always steer in the right direction again.

 

[Aliza]

For whatever it is worth......hormonal changes play a role in lack of 'desire' for sex......there are many herbal supplements other than those well known Pharma products that can help regulate
both men and women's hormones. Having said that...... it certainly doesn't satisfy a person's desire for something fresh and new.

 

[eric k]

I agree totally!

Except for the odd one night stand which can be mind blowing as well.

 

[Bethany]

All my one night stands have been mind blowing.

Just saying.

 

[TEEB]

THATS FUNNY !

 

[hyster]

It can if you let it