Iโve been lurking here a couple of years, and only recently decided to register.
Itโs easy to see how the business dehumanizes all, both the mpa and the customers. It reduces a basic human need to a commodity. And itโs a need that is hard to separate from other needs. The women are looking for safety and security. Some men are willing to provide, but the women are wary, and always want options open, just in case.
It doesnโt generally work well, especially if there is a mismatch in character and ambition. The man better be able to provide, and he needs to select an independently ambitious young lady, who truly wants to leave the life. It can work if all conditions are right.
I used to hobby a lot, and had fun. I hated the fs shops, and gravitated to the legits and semis. I met a young lady one day and decided to repeat. I saw her a few times, then she asked me out. After a few dates, she revealed she had a live in boyfriend. I told her if she wanted me, then she would have to deal with that. She kicked him out. She was 20 at this point. A couple of months later, she moved in with me. We celebrate 15yrs of marriage this year.
She went on to graduate college, then university, and finally to get some serious professional designations, and soon a masters degree. Her salary is about to top 6 figures, while mine has always been a very strong 6 figures, even when we were first married. There are women in the business worth meeting and getting to know, but you wonโt find them if you are looking for bbbj or fs. With that type of woman, you find desperation and damage.