Failed Relationship with MPA

[poodar]

Why not name the MPAs you all dated?
Might help those that are currently on the hook and in the process of being reeled in.

 

[Papi69]

i recently started to like a mpa
she was genuine
opened up to me
i could tell it was real
never asked me for anything

is that how it starts?
omfg

i pulled back
we still chat
always pleasant

but she fucks
a whole bunch of dudes

nmcot

Are you her personal Uber right now? And do you guys go to Starbucks & Talk about the Dudes She Fu@ks? LOL....
No man, I don't think, that's how it starts? I have feeling, that you might be a good listener and She enjoys your Company, feels comfortable with you. So, in another words, you're good friend.

Unfortunately, most times, Good Friends = 2 Not Getting Laid. I say, that, If she's not asking you for anything right now, then, Ride the Wave and See How far, you can stay on the Surfboard. ( I just made that shit up, Sounds good, Lol) Anyhow, enjoy it. The minute she starts asking you for favors, then, Cut her loose.

 

[Slaymon]

So there isn't a single charming motherfucker on this board who has done the opposite and played an MPA? Well I guess any guy who done it successfully wouldnt be here.

 

[felixami]

I gotta say, the handle freaks me out. When I started reading, I swear there was only 2 6's

freaked me right out.

If you think about it
isn't there something about 666

666 is misunderstood
it originally meant something positive
then got miscast as evil

666 is actually good

 

[felixami]

Are you her personal Uber right now? And do you guys go to Starbucks & Talk about the Dudes She Fu@ks? LOL....
No man, I don't think, that's how it starts? I have feeling, that you might be a good listener and She enjoys your Company, feels comfortable with you. So, in another words, you're good friend.

Unfortunately, most times, Good Friends = 2 Not Getting Laid. I say, that, If she's not asking you for anything right now, then, Ride the Wave and See How far, you can stay on the Surfboard. ( I just made that shit up, Sounds good, Lol) Anyhow, enjoy it. The minute she starts asking you for favors, then, Cut her loose.

i stopped texting her
told her i was gonna see other mpas
i think she got pissed off
she no longer answers my texts

 

[felixami]

Yes, that is how it starts. Be very careful with emotions and learn to compartmentalize. Don't go searching for the unicorn cause it'll turn around and stick that horn where the sun don't shine. At least your MPA is honest about being a FS girl. It's the ones that are not FS or claim to not be FS that are the most dangerous.

i asked about sessions
it was interesting
i am stepping back

 

[Johnny O]

Why not name the MPAs you all dated?
Might help those that are currently on the hook and in the process of being reeled in.

Why is there a need to call out the MPA's name for? There is enough information on all these boards to tell someone to not get involved with an MPA outside the spa unless you can accept her line of work. If you can handle it, then go for it but it will eventually impact your mind, your health, you wallet etc. If you do engage outside the spa enjoy it, but be cautious as there are always longtime premium clients with deep pockets that will lure her away from you even after they have left the business.

 

[Deleted member 64273]

Naw. Propaganda by religious folks...

No relation to peter66

Good post. Maybe bad choice of handles? I had a double take myself and had to check the handle.

 

[poodar]

Just name the friggin’ skanks. What’s with all the secrecy? You their knight in shiny shit-boots protecting their privacy?
Especially if she gone and done you wrong by claiming she ain’t hooking up with her sugar buddies, only to have you find out later.
And as if blitzing a dozen or so spas is an appropriate comeuppance.

 

[Buzzkill]

I have posted here in the past about an MPA, where we were dating and I was blindsided when she told me she as an MPA.. It was very dramatic, and I took it on the chin from many of you with the complexity of the situation, and her transitioning to a normal life.. Fast forward to March, 2019 and all I can say based on my experience is an MPA who leaves the biz, is never really fully out of the biz, as there is always a special client list for extra revenue when needed and I am sure many of you get my drift, I found out the hard way.

Enjoy this hobby for what it is, and DO NOT get involved with these woman outside the spa expecting a fairytale ending as it takes a toll on your health. I may get crucified for this but, even woman that leave the biz (NOT ALL), are damaged goods and continue with some of their patterns such as lying for 1 and the rest is connect the dots.

I am starting to hobby again with a chip on my shoulder, and for those of you on the fence with having feelings for a MPA, or an MPA ready to exit the biz do yourself a favor and avoid this situation all together and just enjoy things for what they are and set your expectations to (– 0). If you have the time and money to invest along with unlimited stomach medications then go for it.


Will be providing some reviews in the coming days, as I am going on a spa visit blitz this weekend .

Thanks for the input...all the best...looking forward to the reviews

 

[poodar]

In fact, better yet, post a few pics of her.
Let the community skank shame her whenever they come across her.
I’d be happy to skank shame her on your behalf!

 

[felixami]

Just name the friggin’ skanks. What’s with all the secrecy? You their knight in shiny shit-boots protecting their privacy?
Especially if she gone and done you wrong by claiming she ain’t hooking up with her sugar buddies, only to have you find out later.
And as if blitzing a dozen or so spas is an appropriate comeuppance.

lol
ok ok ok
her name is ...
oh crap...is that my cell ringing?
brb

 

[hobbyist]

Everyone can crap on the double-timing girls but are we any better? I married my dream girl a long time ago but never skipped a beat when it came to visiting the spas.

 

[Johnny O]

In fact, better yet, post a few pics of her.
Let the community skank shame her whenever they come across her.
I’d be happy to skank shame her on your behalf!

You need to settle down and go get a massage …
You make it sound like there is only a handful of these ladies out there that ruin it for everyone else .. If you have been around long enough and talked to these ladies and read the boards, you will see this happens all the time. They do what they do, to earn a living, and that's just the way it is, either accept it and enjoy the ride, or move on quickly, there is nothing in between. As most of the senior hobbyist have shared with us, there is less than a 5% chance of a fairytale ending.

 

[AthleticAF]

You are such a fucking tool, Must be tough being holier then thou, You got burned because you are an asshole trying to convert them over to a better life and you got burned, The OP got it right about his situation, You are just an Athletic Supporter and nothing more

There's the white knight. You know nothing of the specifics, so ride along partner.

 

[Greenberg]

All women are Cunts. It's splitting hairs to claim that escorts are bad but Civie women are better.

Women are incapable of being decent human beings.

They take and take and take, then they find a new Target.

Watch Bear Grylls when he challenged women to survive on an island without the help of men, who were also building their own survival camp. The women, literally, cant survive on their own and they start manipulating men to get what they cant get on teir own.

Very true, all women are takers. ...and all are crazy to varying degrees.

 

[MacReady]

There is never a fairy tale ending.
Even if you are OK with sharing her with others.

I had a very similar experience. Going out with a girl that I didn't know was an mpa. She sprung it on me one day, when her cover story got blown. I thought about it, and decided I was OK with it.
Now this was about 17 years ago, when FS was not as prevalent in MPs as today.
By the way, I never hobbied while I was with her.

So I went with it, I lived in voluntary ignorance, and never gave her a hard time or put pressure on her, and at first everything was fine.
But very shortly after, she got more and more bitchy, and begin picking fights.
She started accusing me of lying and cheating, which I never did.
Then it got to the point where she became infuriated with me being OK with her still being an mpa. She began resenting the fact that I trusted in our relationship and didn't get jealous.

These women are fucked up, and no matter what you do, be it accept them and their job, or demand that they quite, you will never win. These women may think that they want a real relationship someday. The problem is they don't really know what a real relationship is or looks like.

If you are in a situation where you start a "relationship" with one, my advice, don't get emotionally involved.
Use them and the "relationship" for what it is. Free sex with an mpa. Have your fun and broom her at the first sign of trouble.

 

[Leviathan]

It’s about self awareness and judgement. Many of the guys who rant and rave about the “lying scam artists” are fools. It takes two to tangle.

Mistake #1: First the MPA/SP pond that hobbyist decided to participate is “99%” filled with sharks. Think about that. You basically failed out of the gates.

Mistake #2: Look at yourself and the mpa in the mirror and assess strengths and weaknesses and ask does it make even sense to be together ? The risks gaps are clear if you choose to objective. With regular check points. Where are the risks - financial, mental values, beliefs, cultural, communication compatibility and life stage? Same shit with a civilian girl,

Mistake # 3. You would need to be an idiot or blind to not see red flags over time. Many choose to ignore it due to desperation and denial. Some idiots will try and fail 10 times with SP/MpAs which is the definition of insanity or sheer narcism? LoL

Either fish in a cleaner pond or change your strategy in identifying the right girl.

Lord Kray

I completely agree with that assessment. I think two perfect examples of members on this forum who represent each extreme are 1.) Ursus (pure hatred/contempt), who paints all women with a broad brush based solely on his terrible experiences with sex workers that he partly had a hand in letting happen and 2.) Lost Innocence (rose coloured glasses), who couldn't separate fantasy from reality and treated each MPA that he liked as the next potential girl to bring home to mom.

Yes, all of us in this hobby have mental and emotional issues. I believe self-awareness is the most important trait to have as it gives us a better grasp of why we're in this "game", the dynamics of the relationships formed in the room and how to handle these relationships if they are to be taken outside the room. Self-awareness helps us see this hobby for what it is and set our expectations to realistic standards. That way, we don't fall on the deep end of each of the extremes you mentioned. The whole point of this hobby is to remedy these issues at least temporarily, not make them worse.

 

[henricas]

666 is misunderstood

it originally meant something positive then got miscast as evil.
666 is actually good​

Nope, 666 (Six hundred and sixty-six) is called the "number of the Beast" in chapter 13 of the Book of Revelation, of the New Testament.

The Number of the Beast is a term in the Book of Revelation, of the New Testament, that is associated with the Beast of Revelation in chapter 13. The beast of Revelations is the son of Beelzebub (Satan)​

 

[henricas]

So there isn't a single charming motherfucker on this board who has done the opposite and played an MPA? Well I guess any guy who done it successfully wouldnt be here.

If you play with fire you end up getting burned, I fell once Got burned big time. That's the reason I stay away with relationships with these chicks.

They are what they are. fuck them, pay them, leave them. If I even start to see one of them more than once a month; I Move to another Shop, too much hot pussy to get stuck on one. They all charge the same price (More or less)