How about ordinary Japanese women?

[jim a]

So true aussieguy. I once had a several week thing with this really cute gal. When I asked her why she found me attractive, she replied "Because when I first met you, I saw you pick up a piece of trash from the ground and throw it away. I knew then that you were a very kind man."
Badabing!

 

[nu mummy]

You're living the dream, dude! I must admit that I've always regretted never having bedded an Asian chick. Damm, they're hot.

 

[Pompal 09.]

I agree Tom. There are too many waste of time posts here. The one thing Japanese men never do is tell their partner how beautiful they are and they dont talk to them much. It never happens. Its really so simple. There is never a need to pay for it or waste time looking for it in Japan. Just treat them equal or avove. Tell them how pretty they are. "You are so beautiful I cant believe you dont have 3 husbands". "You smell so nice". "You have the prettiest eyes I have ever seen". That kind of stuff will get you laid in a flash because its new to them. Most Japanese girls think they are not pretty. I pulled one 20 years my junior last night. She melted because I was kind to her. She told me her boyfriend never said that to me. Age is not much of a barrier I have been lucky to find. I am 45, the youngest I had was 19. Oldest was "the old Boiler" I called her at 36. Most around 30. Japan is a bloody sex haven full of depressed, suppressed girls waiting to be treated nice.

 

[Alex H]

I lived in Japan for 3 years recently. I'm 35, big, tall and Hawaiian-Caucasian mix. It was easier for me to score with "ordinary women" than to get into the no-gaijin establishments for sure. Bottom line - be everything a Japanese man is NOT and you will find a welcome audience. Look lost, carry a map, and ask where the nearest Starbucks is. Works like a charm. If she doesn't want to join you for a coffee, when you get to Starbucks, sit yourself near someone sitting alone and either ask for directions to a tourist site, a Virgin Records, or a restaurant. I had more luck in this type of scene than in Roppongi bars - my age clearly being a factor.

 

[Purdey EP]

See my previous posts for my thoughts on the success rate of Asian gaijin, in summary I think your asian appearance is an advaneforum.xxxe in Japan. It is quite eay for asian americans to get eigo no sensei work in Japan, but in Taiwan and China most schools still want a white face teaching english.
Being chubby is irrelevant in Japan, chubby chaps are so rare there (unlike Taiwan) that it just isnt an issue unless you were 300 pounds in which case you couldnt afford to eat in Japan on an english teaching wage anyway.

 

[Bubbles DeVere]

I'm curious how do Asian Americans fare in Japan? I am not tall, around 5' 5" and a bit chubby but I am a pretty funny guy (we have exchange teachers from Japan at my school and they all love talking to me so I assume that's a pretty important thing to be haha). But how would Japanese girls take me? She says the girls would like me just cause I'm funny but physically, I'm guessing a no. Thoughts?

 

[Allary]

A tip for any prospective English teachers. Dont work for NOVA, if like most of us you started off with Nova keep looking for that better job, they arent as common as they used to be, but they are still there.

 

[reeloendort]

Bimiji Japan will be your oyster, you are the type jgals go for, very young, slim and laid back, the latter is especially important. Japan is much harder for a mature aged guy, unlike China where the opposite applies. I never scored for free with any under 30 gal despite constant effort. I was 39 when I left Japan. Being a small chap definately helps, while there are many large Japanese men they are still on average smaller than gaijin. Others may disagree but I maintain that a big guy say over 6 ft is at a disadvaneforum.xxxe in Japan. This applies to white gaijin only, Jgals who like black gaijin like big guys because that is part of their stereotype of what a black guy should be. Being funny definately helps, far more so than in China. Chinese girls tend to go for serious physically large and strong guys, Jgals like the 'kawaii" type. I know some big bodybuilder will write in bragging of all the pussy he got in Japan and I believe him...if he is under 30 and doesnt have the aggressive attitude many such chaps display.

 

[{*RandomGirl*}]

Bijimi. You will have no problem at all. Its up to your attitude not your age. You have to remember most Japanese men still look down to their women. All you have to do is put them on a level playng field with you or even a little higher. That is normally something new to them. Stay away from areas like Roppongi at your age would be my advice. Please dont take this the wrong way but I think you would pull more chicks out of McDonalds than any bar. It really is very easy. If an old prick like me can go to Japan every six months as I do and pull much younger chicks than me then so can you. Not that you need any younger. Japanese girls around your age are very different to the ones around 30 to 35 which I have had the most experience with. They are not as shy, alot more open and outgoing and not affraid to try new things. Just smile, be nice, say nice things and they will melt in your arms. One more thing. Many Japanese girls have trouble saying "no". Thats why they are so Japaneasy as they say. They are always interesting, especially in bed. Go get them. Theres plenty to be had. I wish I was your age. I'd be living there in a flash.

 

[Dink]

Ozgajin, interesting thread...I was thinking of going to teach English in Japan for a bit and after reading this was wondering my chances of getting action?? You mention a 'certain' type of guy will have more chance than others. Well, I'm from UK, 23 but look about 17-20, decent looking,slim, quite laid back, funny guy...do most girls prefer an older looking more mature type of guy or could a guy like me do well?? I'd prefer quality chicks rather than just lots of ugs!! What's the chances?

Cheers!!

 

[Im a mexican muslim]

First of all I have to thank the member of the forum for the nice tips about Japan.
I am sorry to inform you though that I was not able to score.
This is my advice for traveller. If you stay short time and is the first time you go to Japan make sure to get there Monday or Tuesday so that you will be able to acquaint a little.
It took me three days to feel a little comfortable in order to get into Nampa and it was the weekend, Sunday I was busy so I had Monday and Tuesday left that are not the best days.
Conclusions, for my experience I cannot tell if is easy or not because I went to a club only Tuesday and it was empty.
Maybe it is also that i was coming from Thailand where i slept every night with a different girl and i was already happy.

 

[JoelKatz]

Kyoto is a lovely place, thats for sure.
The prettiest place I went to was Takayama in the Japanese Alps north west of Nagoya.
My favorite city is Matsuyama. I like going there because there are very few westerners there.
I dislike Roppongi because there are too many westerners there. I prefer to go to Shinjuku or Shibuya when in Tokyo.
When in Tokyo check out the Christon massageplanete in Shinjuku. Its a restaurant, not a massageplanete as such. The decor there blew me away. So interesting. Like nothing else I have seen anywhere in the world.

 

[Ang.]

Reading this has been very interesting.
I have travelled to Japan about 6 or 7 times and am going back again soon. I have now spent a bit of time there and have been to more places than the majority of Japanese. I can say that I only experienced racism on one occasion. I think its very rare. It was from a Japanese male about 35 years old that had had too much to drink and I think was trying to impress his friends. I listened to his shit and moved on. It was in Hiroshima and he probably thought I was American and vented his anger towards me. I am from Australia but I guess that doesn’t make much difference now as we appear to almost be the 53rd state.
I must also say that I have been overwhelmed on many occasions by the warmth and generosity of Japanese men and women also. On one occasion I was walking in the rain down a street in Matsuyama hopelessly lost trying to find my hotel and I asked a guy for directions. He firstly got me under his umbrella with him, then made a phone call, then walked me to the hotel. I have had other things like that happen to me in Japan on many occasions.
I have been interested in Japanese women and Asian women in general for about 15 years I guess but only got with one for the first time about 8 years ago. Since then I can honestly say that I couldn’t probably count the number I have had so easily. Somewhere around 25 I guess. I am no Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt but I always pick up in a bar in Japan. I have never paid for sex directly but let me tell you I have paid for it over and over again. Paid sex is the cheapest sex you can get. I am totally sure of that. I always go to a western style bar and just talk to J girls. Buy them a drink and then after a few suggest they come back to my hotel or where I am staying. I have never once been refused. I have been told its because of my eyes. They love blue eyes.
So for me paying for sex is not an option when it is given away so freely. Maybe I am lucky.
I have had 4 serious relationships with J girls and they all ended very badly.
I read with great interest the messages from Ozgaijin.
I am now nearly of the opinion that I am trying to choose the wrong race. Japanese girls are great for sex but not good as life partners I am starting to think. All the girls are around the ages of 30 – 36. The all have strong issues and are way too sensitive.

Ozgaijin wrote:
I never had a girlfriend in Japan under 30 and by that age they are completely fucked up.
I am starting to see that now.

I am in a relationship with one now that has gone back to Japan for her friends wedding. She will be gone for three weeks and I have to buy her ticket for the third time in 6 months for her return. Will I bother? That’s what I am trying to figure out.
I think you might be in Brisbane also Ozgaijin. Love to chat to you.

 

[Kiz]

Wildcav I cant comment about Kyoto since Ive never been there. Racism in Japan is subtle and is no problem for the visitor, only the expat.

 

[Randi]

I agree with Dreammsss that you will meet far more friendly people in Japan than in a western country. Not all and perhaps not even most Japanese are racist. Id say only 30% are, which is about average anywhere. The thing is in Japan though is institutionalized racism (which affects the resident but rarely if ever the visitor) is worse than in any country since so many xenophobes and racists are concentrated in the bureaucracy and government. The corporate sector in Japan is far less racist than the civil service where racists have long since carved out a power base.
The national pension fund which all government employeesare required to pay into blatantly discriminates against foreigners. this is how itworks.
Since gaijin rarely work for the Japanese govt until retirement age, provision is made to pay agaijin his pension payout when he leaves the public service.
But the maximum payout is given after 3 years service. So if you live and work for the Japanese govt and pay your pension fund for 10 years you only get back the maximum payment of 3 years. A not so subtlewayto get rid of you after 3 years I say.

 

[Pompal 09.]

Japanese racism is no problem for any visitor of any colour from any country. It isonly when you live there that you experiance it. Trying for example to rent an apartment (a good one I mean) in Tokyo without a prior arrangement by a Japanese national (in most cases rarely forthcoming) it is extremely difficult. Most will refuse to rent to a gaijin whether you can speak Japanese or not.
Long term residents often face problems of dissapproving relatives. A mate of mine in Tokyo was 45 and had a beautiful 22 year old girlfriend long term. When she told her parents they threatened to commit suicuide if she didnt break up with him. Any resident of Japan knows theyd have done it too. Now he has a similar young Jgal, but has learned his lesson and not told the parents. These problems are of no concern to the casual visitor. His main obstacle will be p4p venues which refuse entry to gaijin. But not all refuse and there are so many brothels in Japan it doesnt matter.

 

[ERR0R]

I have been many times to Kyoto ( not on a mongering tour though, I agree that it is not at all a good place for that kind of activity). I never never had any problems , quite the contrary, people were far morefriendly than the average blog in the west...
Enjoy Kyoto, one of the most lovely place on earth

 

[iiolloi]

What exactly do you mean by racism ? I never found any of that, actually I found Japanese people very keen on knowing more about the West etc. and to make Western friends.

Japan is a very politically incorrect country, e.g. charging more for transport and hotel of disabled people ! Are you sure it is racism ?

 

[Sindhu]

I have been to Kyoto three times in the past 4 years, and I have never seen any outright acts of racism myself. People in Kyoto, mostly the older folks, will have no problem with non-Japanese, unless your background is Korean. There is a large Korean population in Kyoto, mostly the outskirts, and they have had some problems, mostly in the distant past. Still today, you can hear about a Japanese person born in Kyoto, but with some Korean ancestory, being denied entrance into a top school, or a top level job/company. There are even specialized detective agencies (well at least one that I know of - Toromo? Investigations), that do background checks for families whose son/daughter is bout to get married. They check out if the bride/groom has any Korean ancestory, but, only the rich people use this agency, or even care any more. If you are caucasian, you will be fine, and if you speak some Japanese even better.
If you are looking for P4P, Kyoto does not offer a lot of choice. There are a few parlors on Pontocho, south of Shijo-dori, but never been in one. There are hostess bars all along the first street north of Shijo-dori, on the east side of the river. Can't remember the name of the street, but if you cross the river going east of Shijo, and turn up the first (or second) street, the first street running east/west is the one. If you are Gaijin, you are better off heading to HUB or Bar Africa. These two places are generally full of annoying English teachers trying to score, or more annoying Euros/North Americans ex-pats whining about how much Japan sucks...although they have lived in Japan for 10 years. I met a couple of live girls at both places. Best of luck

 

[???? ???? ???? ??j?]

is it like that for racism in kyoto because im going there for 2 weeks at the end of december for holiday and im 22 years old and average and i kinda scared because my japanese is only enough that i can barely get by so my main question basically is How bad is racism situation in kyoto and am i gonna have to pay a large portion of money just to get laid?