Open Marriages

[`SoA Nintendo]

tboy knows his role on here. :he:

At least the dude is consistent.

 

[Aisha]

Woodchuck! Did somebody say wood?

Juan Epstein's mother would send him with:
his toothbrush, his spiderman pj's, extra pull-ups because he's a big boy now! LMAO.

I'm goin' to the strippers! Later!

 

[Katelina]

That would suck if you don't feel fully free to express yourself on here or if you start censoring yourself, I really like hearing about your fuckbuddy setup and the thought process behind it.

 

[sudhitcr@gmail.com]

Thank you, Auggie, that's very nice.

Um, I do censor myself. Some of you should be glad. :tongue:

 

[Aimz]

:shock:

 

[Ben W]

I've always found it is better to regret DOING something than to regret NOT doing something
Good luck hun.

 

[Clever_Clogs]

LOL, it's like we're twins from different mothers. I feel the exact same way. :tongue:

 

[Unpretty]

Two of my favorite people, why am I not surprised?

Happy New Year, sisters!

 

[RosaFam07]

I've been thinking about this more, and I've decided against it. I don't need Drama in my life, and the situation reeks of it.

Thanks again for all the input.

 

[Ferygon]

^^^ which is what I was trying to say all along!

*shakes his head*

(this is the pita in me coming out again)

But but but....what if he was to be the best fuck of your your LLLLIFE? OMG the regrets the regrets....



Now I don't know you personally in the least but it's attitudes like this that create crack addicts, accidental deaths, love triangles (which often result in criminal charges being laid), calling out the emts or the mountain rescue to get some poor schmuck off some mountain ledge with a broken back.

Here's a little example for you:

When I was 17(ish) a buddy and I had these two hotties over. We ended up playing caps and the girls got drunk. My buddy took his home and mine wanted to hang out for a bit. She had a couple more drinks (on her own accord) and ended up driving the pocelain bus while I held her hair back.

Now this chick was hot, valerie bertinelli (in her heyday) hot. Everyone, and I mean EVERYONE wanted to get with her.

Well, she mumbled she can't go home like this, so I had a choice: put her in MY bed, or put her on the spare. I took the honarable route put her on the spare, kissed her on the cheek, covered her with a blankie and went to my room.

One of my (albeit minor) regrets was not stripping her naked and continuing the party. See, I was a dork when I was a teen. I couldn't pick up chicks with a forklift.

According to your definition, I should have taken advantage of her in her vulnerable state. See, that could have gone either way: if she had woken up next to me naked, she could have thought: whoa, wasn't that a party...or she could have thought: ewww what did I do.......as it turned out, her older sister who worked at a place I hung out at, said to me she appreciated that I took care of her sister and made sure she got home the next day safe and sound. I got a rep as a nice guy (which is probably why I didn't get laid again until I was 20).

See, the way I look at it: living with no regrets or not taking chances is just an excuse for people who say "at least I took a chance" and lost the house, their life, or their loved ones. There are measured risks, and there are foolish risks. One can gamble with a couple of hundred dollars or one can gamble their kid's college tuition on a 1,000,000 to 1 longshot.

There was a thread on here about whether or not a guy should cheat on his wife. If you live by the "no regrets" rule, anytime someone who is in a marriage or relationship meets someone who is into them, they should fuck them.

In this case in particular, I'd say "taking a risk" would be going out with a type of guy SG had never gone out with before NOT going out and getting involved with someone who is obviously in a situation that is rife with peril.

 

[Nimrod]

I will regret never finding out.

Why are you trying so hard to antagonize me?

hmmm...gosh, all this time I've been confused about my life, when all I had to do was ask Tboy. Silly, silly me. :roll:

 

[Seraphin Falls]

There's that pot/kettle thing again.....and hey, your handle IS silly girl so if the shoe fits, go dancing!

 

[CNICOLE]

Instead of regrets, tell yourself that he's most likely unavailable with a wife and children who depend on him. As you've found out there are plenty of others.

If you took him on, would you have to drop another fuckbuddy?
That's where the drama might lie.

 

[Tattoosformyvalentine.]

You never know. I've always felt if something was meant to be it will be. If he is telling you the truth maybe he's just waiting a bit for his kids to get older (never mentioned how old they are) or for his wife to find employment (if she's a stay at home mom) and then he'll be able to move out. Maybe you'll find eachother in the future when he really is available and you can get together guilt/worry free. If not, then maybe this is just the one you need to turn down in order to find the one that'll really make your head spin and maybe you'll even want to fall in love with or at least he may make you forget the fish you threw back!

Don't regret this decision. You would have been somewhat tormented wondering what was going on in his "other life" and you probably wouldn't have ever known if he was telling you the truth or not. Being the wife of one who didn't get turned down I can tell you the pain and suffering that cheating can cause is beyond anything else. I wouldn't want to be one of the parties responsible for making someone feel the way I do. Even when the affair ends the pain continues for a long long time and some people never recover and end up becoming very bitter lonely people (not me but I've seen it happen more than once).

Good luck to you, I'm sure you'll find someone who will make you forget him in no time. You sound like you're a lot of fun to be around and I can't imagine (based on all your posts) you'd ever have a difficult time when it comes to men!

 

[TANK]

Because you made the right decision.

Why was it the right decision? Despite all the advice and persuasive arguments you have encountered urging you to decide this way or decide that way, there is only one basis for determining which is the right decision.

And that basis is simply this:

It's the decision you made. Ergo, it's the right decision, girl.

Ergo, no regrets.

One thing I learned in my previous career (a high-stress, fast-paced management position with public profile that allowed thousands, literally thousands, of people to second guess me and criticize me publicly) is this:

There are no right decisions or wrong decisions. There are merely decisions. Some work out better than others. Some need to be revisited and some need to be remade.

Regrets?

Never finding out?

Irrelevant.

You made the decision to avoid drama.

Bingo!

You made the right decision.

Had you decided to experiment with a hot, passionate in-the-flesh experience, that too would have been the right decision.

Had complications arisen, you would have had to make more decisions. That's all.

But regrets?

Why bother with regrets?

 

[loriel]

I don't think there will be drama when I drop them. There's no emotional involvement, that's what leads to drama.



I usually throw back the ones who make my head spin. No point putting myself in a situation where I might end up wanting a relationship I can't handle.

Thanks for being so nice.



I disagree. Having made some decisions that cost me greatly, there's no way I don't look back and consider them wrong.

I do agree that this particular decision is insignificant in the big scheme of things.

And it's nice to know I have someone who will tell me whatever I did was the right thing, thanks.