Why does sex get boring with your partner after a few years?

[Ajack (got it back :3)]

Brings up the topic you cannot have steak everyday. So what is your take on this?.

 

[Shimmering]

Change is a good thing as long as you don't get caught change steak to lobster sometimes .

 

[cruz1850]

Seriously?

You really wanna hear my answer on this? :???:

 

[eEz]

doesn't have to get boring at all. I've been with the same guy for 14 years and our sex life is probably better than it was in the first year together. The more you're willing to ask for, and the more you're willing to do, the better it is and it's more comfortable asking and doing with/for/to a person whom you trust completly.

 

[Urahara]

I knew you would bite. This thread is for you CG. You are so gullible. Now show us pics of the Mrs. LOL. Like the beer commercial. This bud is for you.

 

[lucy lui]

LOL!

Not gullible at all... If I WERE gullible, I would have answered the question which a 12 page pontification...

Besides, the fact that sex with my wife is NOT boring is a matter of public record on this and a few other forums!

This being the case, I could be considered Anti-gullible!

And WTF is Mrs. LOL? Oh wait... I'll google it for you... BRB....

 

[Misc Tech Advice]

I Googled Mrs. LOL, and this was the first pic that came up...

 

[stacks on deck]

I agree, sex doesn't have to get boring after 1 2 10 or more years. It's what you're willing to do to make it continually enjoyable.

Now with that being said the longest it's been for me is 6 yrs and I tell you, for me, sex on the last day was as great as it was on the first.

I think the major problem with couples is that (and I know it's not all their fault) but men and women use sex for different things. It is widely accepted that women use sex to get a guy, children etc and after they have that? They lose interest. I have experienced that first hand and it is a common complaint among married men (that they basically have to beg for a little something something).

I think open communication and being open to new things would make sex with the same person more enjoyable over the long haul......

 

[misty-dawn]

Well, there are exceptions to that rule... But ya... that pretty much covers it... :great:

I'm sure 3some and Mrs Tank and by the sounds of things new member kefrm can attest to that.

 

[Luveena]

I dont' believe that at all. I love sex and initiate it probably more often than my husband does.

Maybe women, after having children, get tired and feel unappreciated and that turns them off but when rested and happy we have just as many urges as men do.
After my kids were born there was a time when I didn't want it at all but that's with being up all night with babies and never sleeping more than 2 hours at a time. Once they got a bit bigger it all came back. Now, I'm the one on this website and he isn't. The longer we're together the better our sex life is. The more confortable you are with your partner the more willing you are to try different things and the more you trust them the more willing you are to communicate your wants/needs/desires.

Maybe if the wife (wives) you're talking about got more appreciation for the cooking, cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping and other boring never ending jobs she (they) do and even a little help with them they'd have more energy for sex and be more passionate in general. There have been times that I've gone out for the day on a weekend and get home and he's cleaned the whole house top to bottom and I'll tell you when that's not hanging over my head the sex at night is amazing 'cause I'm not overwelmed with what I have to do the next day and I find myself more attracted to him because of the help.
(I'm sure some out there do help and show appreciatiion....obviously I'm talking in very general terms)


Just saying

 

[akhilstar]

Have you asked Sentry and Tank :neutral:

 

[Erick]

Are you F'ing kidding me?????

I just can't get enough of Mrs. Ang, she turns me on more NOW than she did when we first met (not to say she didn't turn me on..cause she did), we experiment more today than ever:whip:

Yes daily routine..same ol same ol can get boring...but that's why you need to spice it up...different toys, different games, date night, and little weekend getaways for a sexfest.....meeting for dinner with her wearing a light trench coat and knowing full well what she has underneath (enough to drive a man crazy):grrrrrr:

My SO has.... I would say around 75 different little sexy outfits that she wears for me (and GOD does she wear them well).....now tell me how you cannot get turned on by that:neutral:...

But I know there are couples that just can't seem to get into it,...we went through a stage too!

Ok I bit...LOL

 

[freshfromrwc]

Your such a fucking PERV ang! :na:

(BTW- I really like that one outfit with the sexy thigh high boots and the white mesh minidress.... )

A couple very good points being made in this thread.

1. Spice it up anyway you can
2. Be willing to experiment & try new things
3. Datenight!
4. Keep the romance alive- flowers, small thoughtful gifts here and there. Little things MATTER in this case.
5. Help around the house, cooking, cleaning etc.
6. Sex vacation (coming up in a couple weeks! )
7. Add a 2nd woman for a 3-way! (If she's into that sort of thing of course... :shock

 

[cody b]

it always comes back to having a second woman join in!
LOL

just surprised that it's not higher on the list.

 

[hits4singles]

It will be once his Mrs. has my Mrs......:666:

 

[xoPink]

You're kinda new here so I'll cut you some slack... :tongue:

Its kinda like this:

Superman has kryptonite.
SillyGirl has FB #4
Cycleguy has girl-on-girl sex.

:arf:

 

[Garf F]

Like my sig says..........

Like this one?

 

[Beebs]

Not at all like that one....

(I don't recall saying anything about a thong or smudgy boobs! :grrrrrr

:tongue:

 

[LC850]

This one....:neutral:

 

[jronnie22]

CG, teach your wife to stop giving you the finger. Let me know if you need help.:intello: