Wife cheating

[talal s]

So if you find out the wifes having an emotional affair that appears to also be physical,. you can prove the emotional part with certainty (she admits to it) and the physical part she denies but you dont believe her, all signs point to both.
BUT you hobby on a regular basis, no she doesnt know that, how mad can you get, is it different? Interested in male and female opinions on this.

 

[Apple Juice]

You really can't get mad...( i guess normal jealous feelings etc )
it's a perfect time to attempt to ''open'' the relationship

THE COUPLE WHO PLAYS TOGETHER STAYS TOGETHER :great::great:

IMHO

 

[WHY]

Mucking if it's your wife you are referring to, I suggest before you say or do anything talk to a very good lawyer.

 

[Kat W]

IMHO you cant get too mad about the physical aspect, if its happeneing, cause we are guilty of the same thing.
However the emotional affair is a bigger problem for me, as it shows a diminished committment to your relationship...and emotional affairs seem to always lead to physical..and physical and emotional commitment to another spells trouble. It has been my experience, and not meaning to insult anyone or any gender, but women seem less likely to try and support multiple relationships than men.

I have been in a similar situation, and found it hardest to accept the emotional connection they had. Eventually there was" only room for one in her heart" as she said and that helped erode our relationship. We are clearly no longer together but nor is she with him.

Beware where this may be taking your marriage, and if you are hobbying and she is emotionally committed elsewhere to some degree, examine what you really want from the marriage and make sure its where you want to be.

Bit heavy but better prepared than not.

 

[Miki Takei]

I think a small percentage go open and thats a possibility but as albino said most go to the lawyer.

 

[Iamkindacool]

Not very...

 

[La chick]

There's your answer, right there.

 

[Smiley Sophie]

Husband: how could you fall in love with another man!?
Wife: how can you blame me for wanting companionship? You emotionally abandoned me!

Wife: I can't believe you would have sex with a stranger?!
Husband: It was just physical! It means nothing!



Sure, we can justify hypocrisy.

 

[lysistrata411]

Rationally you have not any reason to be angry at her, however I'm sure all rational thought goes out of the window in times like this.

 

[Ann O]

You don't really have any right to be angry about the physical aspect, but the emotional relationship is of far more consequence.

A consult with a lawyer is a good idea.

 

[vvrc]

If you want to make it work, call a marriage counsellor, priest, whatever.

Don't call a lawyer unless you want to end the relationship or are seriously thinking about it. The lawyer will advise you to do a whole bunch of things that are not warm and fuzzy.

 

[Gray area]

Very good advise imo.

 

[Buck]

Very interesting responses. Sums up a lot of how I feel on many different fronts. The person she was running around with pretended to be a friend of mine as well, and hes married too. Keep the comments coming folks, would love to hear from a womens pov that are on the board.

 

[fishy!]

There is nothing warm and fuzzy about this. A consult with a lawyer would make clear exactly what the financial stakes are, and exactly how brutal the process will be.

 

[cassandras_evil_sister3]

But that's kinda my point. A lawyer will tell you how to end it, and not how to save the relationship.

I would like to think that warm and fuzzy was part of the equation at some point in a romantic relationship.

Still, the relationship will NEVER be the same.

 

[Cornflakes]

Yes he can. Mukin does not get emotionally with the SP he sees. His wife did, big difference there.

Fine, call me a male chauvinist but I do have a point.

 

[Tara]

If you don't know what's involved with ending it, how can you make a smart decision?

Keeping in mind it might not be up to him, she's emotionally involved with another man. I just don't see the harm in a consult to know what's involved.

And the OP didn't say anything about wanting to save the relationship, he just asked how mad he could be about her cheating. And while he seems more upset about the physical part than the emotional, it's really the emotional part that's the bigger issue.

 

[syph]

I suspect that we both speak from experience.

 

[Pompal 09.]

Sorry to hear this Muckin. Is this why you stopped hobbying and posting reviews?

 

[AV (Avinash J Welinkar)]

You can't blame people for getting emotionally involved with someone, it isn't a choice. Seeing someone for physical needs is a rational decision, if someone chooses to fuck another person behind your back simply to get off that shows a lack of respect for your relationship.

Just like seeing escorts.