Failed Relationship with MPA

[Ursus]

you basically insulted your wife in the process lol.

Of course I did.

Your Mother is a Cunt. So is mine. So is your wife and my wife.

What is so hard to understand?

Oh..........you think OTHER WOMEN have faults but your family of women are wonderful?

Stupid Idiot.

 

[hobbyist]

Yes they all lie all the time. They lie without thinking about it because that is what is normal to them and yes they keep sugardaddies on the side.

And if they tell you "You're the only one I give my phone number to" just go to whitepages.ca and type their number it. You won't likely find any info on them but it shows search statistics. One girl who told me that was getting her phone number searched 100+ times per month.

 

[Pay2Play]

Of course I did.

Your Mother is a Cunt. So is mine. So is your wife and my wife.

What is so hard to understand?

Oh..........you think OTHER WOMEN have faults but your family of women are wonderful?

Stupid Idiot.

The words of a weak man.

 

[Ursus]

The words of a weak man.

Your words are that of a bias and dishonest man.

You dont see things for what they are, only what you want them to be.

It shows a lack of intelligence on your part.

 

[peter66]

They say, once a ho always a ho. You can't try a ho into house wife.

So true. Annalisse/Mila’s the biggest Ho there ever was or will be. Can’t wait for her family to know what’s been true and what’s been a complete lie all this time. Precious moment

 

[Pay2Play]

Your words are that of a bias and dishonest man.

You dont see things for what they are, only what you want them to be.

It shows a lack of intelligence on your part.

Your response solidifies my presumptions. It is you that is a weak and cowardly man. Obsession is weakness, give Angela my love.

 

[Leviathan]

“Lack Intelligence”?

Your words are that of a bias and dishonest man.

You dont see things for what they are, only what you want them to be.

It shows a lack of intelligence on your part.

 

[Boston Man Chowder]

I just don't see why there's a need to attack the character of sex workers simply because they prioritize making money and living the high life over loving us unconditionally. DUH! Isn't that the whole point of having a job? Some of you are pointing out the obvious and implying that these girls are somehow bad people for it. One night stands and dinner dates are just them working off the clock to retain your business. Salesmen, lawyers, bankers and shrinks do this as well. The dynamic rarely ever changes for as long as she first met you at the spa.

Like a lot of guys, I fell hard for the first MPA I ever saw in 2014. She was just 4 years younger than me and the times we spent in and out of the spa were some of the happiest times of my life. I couldn't cope when she left the business yet to this day, I have no regrets or hard feelings. I know the hustle. I knew one day she would disappear completely from my life. I just never prepared myself for the inevitable.

 

[Leviathan]

It’s typical. There are 2 extreme mindsets at opposite ends of spectrum. Folks with pure hatred /contempt and those with Rose Coloured glasses.

Symptom ? Both have mental & emotional issues.

Lord Kray, I’m a bit of both depending on my agenda ? LoL LoL

I just don't see why there's a need to attack the character of sex workers because their #1 goal is to make money and live the high life, not love us unconditionally. DUH! Isn't that the whole point of having a job? Some of you are pointing out the obvious and implying that these girls are somehow bad people for it. One night stands and dinner dates are just them working off the clock to retain your business. Salesmen, lawyers, bankers and shrinks do this as well. The dynamic rarely ever changes for as long as she first met you at the spa.

Like a lot of guys, I fell hard for the first MPA I ever saw in 2014. She was just 4 years younger than me and the times we spent in and out of the spa were some of the happiest times of my life. I couldn't cope when she left the business yet to this day, I have no regrets or hard feelings. I know the hustle. I knew one day she would disappear completely from my life. I just never prepared myself for the inevitable.

 

[Dongo]

It’s typical. There are 2 extreme mindsets at opposite ends of spectrum. Folks with pure hatred /contempt and those with Rose Coloured glasses.

Symptom ? Both have mental & emotional issues.

Lord Kray, I’m a bit of both depending on my agenda ? LoL LoL

I believe most of us in this "hobby" life are the same way. Somewhat delusional at times, and somewhat critical at other times.
I try to just live in the moment but that is difficult when you run into a person that you really connect with and the chemistry flows.

 

[Knock Off Impact GTOH]

There is no such things as real or genuine mpa. They all have side kicks and secrets they will never tell you. They all are fakes and liars even when they were really in love with you...

Those are some pretty harsh sentiments. Good luck to you now with your promotions business.

 

[krayjee]

Those are some pretty harsh sentiments. Good luck to you now with your promotions business.

Harsh?? I don't think so. I have dated at least 6-7 mpas and I have seen it all how their real characters were. I always try to teach them right from wrong but without any success. Lies, cheats and greed are in their blood. .
I am working with a few spas now and some of them confide me with their problems and personal live issues. All they care is money and their future, their security and very calculative. Some girls playing with 2-3 guys at the same time. Some are using the guys to a point I have to warn them it wasn't so nice of them. Their response was it's not their problem, they didn't force anyone to do that. The guys are the ones willingly doing it. It is quite true tho' , I am seeing quite often how some guys put noose in their noses and letting the girls pull anyway they want. I will never forget a guy who lost his Shopper's drug mart ownership just bcuz he fell in love with the wrong girl who was my close friend at SRM. She used him like a piece of shit and didn't have any sympathy for him after she dumped him. The guy even bought her a $20,000 diamond engagement ring which she refused to give it back after they broke up. That's how they all are no matter how they seem sincere.
I myself have learnt it a hard way with my first one but I considered it as my graduation fees and the money well spent cuz I know how to play the game well now and am always ahead in the games. My best advice is never let your guards down. The best is to have Open relationship and enjoy the ride once you find the right one and make sure you have some side kicks aside if your current one went side way.
Never forget women are emotional creatures, not the logical ones. Never argue with them, just tell them what they want to hear and make them feel happy and important. If you know how to open that secret door in their psyche and are welcomed in, they become your play ground. Play hard and play smart. Life is full of fun only if you know how to enjoy it.

 

[Boston Man Chowder]

It’s typical. There are 2 extreme mindsets at opposite ends of spectrum. Folks with pure hatred /contempt and those with Rose Coloured glasses.

Symptom ? Both have mental & emotional issues.

Lord Kray, I’m a bit of both depending on my agenda ? LoL LoL

I completely agree with that assessment. I think two perfect examples of members on this forum who represent each extreme are 1.) Ursus (pure hatred/contempt), who paints all women with a broad brush based solely on his terrible experiences with sex workers that he partly had a hand in letting happen and 2.) Lost Innocence (rose coloured glasses), who couldn't separate fantasy from reality and treated each MPA that he liked as the next potential girl to bring home to mom.

Yes, all of us in this hobby have mental and emotional issues. I believe self-awareness is the most important trait to have as it gives us a better grasp of why we're in this "game", the dynamics of the relationships formed in the room and how to handle these relationships if they are to be taken outside the room. Self-awareness helps us see this hobby for what it is and set our expectations to realistic standards. That way, we don't fall on the deep end of each of the extremes you mentioned. The whole point of this hobby is to remedy these issues at least temporarily, not make them worse.

 

[Deleted member 64273]

i recently started to like a mpa
she was genuine
opened up to me
i could tell it was real
never asked me for anything

is that how it starts?
omfg

i pulled back
we still chat
always pleasant

but she fucks
a whole bunch of dudes

nmcot

Yes, that is how it starts. Be very careful with emotions and learn to compartmentalize. Don't go searching for the unicorn cause it'll turn around and stick that horn where the sun don't shine. At least your MPA is honest about being a FS girl. It's the ones that are not FS or claim to not be FS that are the most dangerous.

 

[Boston Man Chowder]

I believe most of us in this "hobby" life are the same way. Somewhat delusional at times, and somewhat critical at other times.
I try to just live in the moment but that is difficult when you run into a person that you really connect with and the chemistry flows.

I sound like a broken record but can't stress it enough. Self-awareness is key. I am a deeply disturbed individual who is using this hobby to help cope with the loneliness of tragically losing the woman I loved. Like you, I've built chemistry with quite a few MPAs. I am currently seeing one from Flirt almost exclusively and when I'm with her, I'm in La La Land. I think about her all the time. Call it delusional but these feelings are normal because in the spa world, the lines between fantasy and reality are blurred. I just give my head a shake and tell myself that this wonderful lady can never take the place of my late girlfriend. She will never see me as anything more than a client even if there's a possibility that she may genuinely like me as a person. That doesn't make her evil, manipulative or uncaring. It's just the unfortunate reality I was dealt with of having met her at the massage parlour. It probably would've been a completely different story if we met at Starbucks. Hey, at least for 90 minutes or even 2 hours, she gets to rock my world and the beauty of it is, I get to come back and do it all over again.

 

[Leviathan]

“Lonely, unhappy, and vulnerable men “ generally equate sexual and emotionally intimacy with “chemistry”. Women generally can separate the two with a larger goal or agenda in mind particularly financial. It’s a sophisticated transaction. LoL LoL

No different than capiltalistic and profit human beings. The difference ? Sex and companionship fantasy is medium of exchange.

I believe most of us in this "hobby" life are the same way. Somewhat delusional at times, and somewhat critical at other times.
I try to just live in the moment but that is difficult when you run into a person that you really connect with and the chemistry flows.

 

[JaimeWolf]

She is someone I use to know, but I really didnt know the full extent. Lessons learned.

Your biggest mistake was expecting her to change. Relationship with a MPA or SP can be ok if you accept her continuing to work. You get to fuck her bareback for "free" while everyone else pays. Sex with a skilled pro is also typically better than with a civvie.

Almost got into that web until i took a hold of myself and slapped myself silly. When you actually realize that you will be having a relationship with a woman who has sucked, licked, deep throated, swallowed every ethnicity out there and she will regurgitate all that into your mouth as you DFK. I dont know if that wont turn you gay but, that sht is nasty.

Actually most good MPAs and SPs are more discerning with hygene. They won't kiss you if you have bad breath, won't do BBBJ if your cock isn't scrubbed clean, won't BLS if your balls aren't shaved, etc.

 

[Ursus]

Your response solidifies my presumptions. It is you that is a weak and cowardly man. Obsession is weakness, give Angela my love.

You're boring.

I can tell my posts bother you.

Get a Life. You need one.

 

[cupcrazy]

My major concern is trust issues from both sides. One MPa proposed to me to have an open relationship. What's the point of having an relationship if you are planning to bang someone else. To me a relationship should be monoglomy. I know I cannot do that. That's why I am not starting a relationship with anybody as it is not fair for her.

 

[Pay2Play]

You're boring.

I can tell my posts bother you.

Get a Life. You need one.

Great, thanks for the suggestion. Now by get a life do you mean write long winded nonsense on a sex forum?