Farangs and Bargirls

[Matt991]

i did that for stickman.....and just wanted to send here also
thats all...

and mostly i like to read the posts here and dont like to quote much if it is not considerable.

 

[Mr. Fantastic]

Sorry. I was one of the American servicemen in the 70s. I also took the long course (married a TG and divorced 4 years later). She had me totally bewitched, but as far as washing me, you have to be kidding. The girls and the GIs were fully capable of treating each other like shit in 1975. And in case it's your criteria of quality, finding a girl who would administer a BJ, even in a soapie, was fairly rare. Now the 100 bht LT was great, but don't believe everything you hear.

 

[jmau]

It must be a computer glitch then Some things I never mentioned before, i.e. about segments.

But it's okay, I'm just happy you like to quote in response to posts just like I do 555

 

[Deadhead Incognito]

I've read Astor77's post and to be honest i think he has some very valid points.. i can be as argumentative as the next guy but i cant pick any bones out of this one....

I think mentioning his age is a poor question for debate, his 10 years experience is more than enough to notice changes (for the worst)

I'm 37 but it doesn't matter, the point is i've been coming to Phuket for 5 years now and remember the days when you walked in a bar the lady would greet you with a wai, find you a seat and wipe your face with a cold towel and keep you company to which you would be happy to offer her a drink....
Nowadays, rarely you get a wai, the occasional cold towel to do yourself and within 3 minutes of walking in "YOU BUY ME DRINK".... he's right, its changed for the worse... i'm here for the golf and the weather so it wont ruin my enjoyment

 

[Spot]

I always answer that it's my first time.
In hindsight, maybe I should use the 3 years as an answer.

 

[SirSys]

You've shattered my illusions! :


I'm going home. :tussor:



I'll get my coat now. :tuxout:


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[Sondra]

I believe Thai girls are there for our pleasure, it cost to be in their company BG or not, it all costs, so you might as well get what u want.

J69

 

[Yazmin]

He surely does have some very valid points in there.



It was a question about the age and experience which has been answered in a later post (10 years was a unknown in the OP)
Don't jump to quickly in your conclusions



Don't know about Phuket, but whenever I go to LOS there seems to be an endless wave of wai's.

btw..the cold towel only makes things worse, better get some white powder for a change

 

[Spunk!]

that's truely a sad story.

 

[ctopher]

Mav, it works in one of two ways.... you're right 3 years makes them think you know all the scams, must have a wife and best avoided but there is the exception where they think, must have good job, big house loads of money etc (not me for sure)! so a good catch, but depends what you want.

If i'm happy, chatting with the lads and having a beer i'll say 3 years because as you said they go away, however if you fancy a laugh and some fun i'd say i'm on holiday, listen to the BS buy her a drink then tell her the truth, they laugh and because you've bought her a few drinks there's no hard feelings. :love3:

 

[deSade]

This made me laugh, was out in Bangla only a few days ago with some friends and went into a bar beer as it had some nice eye candy, only for look as we all have tiraks. Got chatting to this girl and her question delivery was straight off the crib sheet
1. What yr name ........
2. Where u come from......... UK
3. How long you stay in Phuket...... 3 years
4. Do you have house........ Yes

She's happy smiling cos i think the answers were good so far

5. How much did you pay for house ........ however many million

Steps closer smile from ear to ear

6. Do you have Thai wife.......... Yes

Backs off, looks p1ssed off....a split second change from last answer

ok YOU BUY ME DRINK !!!

Hence why i dont like these kind of bars because of the same mundane approach and questioning but some of my mates do like, so it keeps everyone happy

 

[Alia M]

It doesn't matter how diplomatically you word your post, there always seems to be someone who is fixated with oneupmanship, quote quote........

 

[HenryVIII]

mhh, I always believed quotes would make discussion a bit more easy ...you know what you wanted to address to eachother.

As I said before, take it light...I go out for a beer now.

Have a great weekend :thumbsup:

 

[Daniel L]

i like your story and got a chuckle out of it, but what are these girls to do if they work in a bar
quote shakespeare?

 

[Q & A King XXII]

IMHO, the whole beauty of Asian culture is that it did not loose (still) the sexuality in man/woman relationship. There is nothing wrong in man pampering his woman and there is nothing wrong in woman taking good care of him. This does not affect the whole notion of independence and roles in the family - girl can be independent all right, pampering her man does not make her any more dependent on him. Likewise, man pleasing his woman does not mean he does not want to be pampered or loved. I for one am tired of corrupted, twisted and untrustworthy relationships that rule western world today.

Of course, many bar girls would not give you the spiritual and bonding relationship that is common for Asian culture, but then one needs to understand that the whole nature of their work assumes they dont get attached to men on the emotional level. This is a barrier built to protect themselves, otherwise it is too easy to meet 20 good men in a single year, fall in love and live through 20 heartbreaking separations - this is far too high price to pay to keep this kind of attachments happening all the time.

Consequently, it is only natural that once one meets a girl he likes and tries to form the emotional bond (or in other words make her fall in love with him) one has a Herculean job to do to overcome all defensive (and often negative) thinking that has developed over years being in business. Personally, I am not sure I would even try...

Apology for the long post, my point is rather simple - treat BG with respect and tenderness they deserve, give and receive fun, be generous yet not foolish. If you get same back then keep her, if not - dump her. It is all about mutual respect, self esteem and getting most from your life. If you come across someone you think you wanna marry then think many times - are you gonna spend all your life with her or not? If even once you think you would not then keep her as a girlfriend rather than marry her. Asia has a lot to offer to us, farangs...

 

[Alayna]

nice post Anthony.

 

[Dj Pep]

I don’t know if Newbies should or can just jump into Threads – But I have been reading this one and would like to add something (You can all flame me later)
The above Thread by AnthonyLon – Really hit home to me about the culture of Asia and some of the bar scene in Thailand. (Great Thread)
I paid my first visit to Thailand back in July and just fell in love with the place. I was very worried about going as I am disabled and have a big old tumour in the left leg and have to use crutches to walk everywhere and plus I am only 5 ft tall (Normal height for a Thai) I was told all the women would love me no matter what and I looked like or what was wrong with me.. But as I live in sunny old England and have been turned down by just about every single women (Though nothing to do with my leg they always say) But one girl was brave enough to tell me the truth, she said women want their men to be taller than they are, they want them to be able to look after them, carry them when they need to and not have always care for them. They want it all – Looks, height, good job not be disabled and also to have a big C**K (No worries there for me)
I get to my point – Women in Thailand also want a lot, Good man, Good Job, Good Money and also Good heart. And that last one really means something in Thailand. It does not matter about your looks, or age or what clothes you wear or who you hang out with. And it was so nice to be welcomed in such a way by beautiful women and I just had the best time of my life.
What I am trying to say is, Women in England are nice to me they really are, but they wont give me the time of day when I want to take things to another level. Yet the women I went with in Thailand Yes I paid for them, but they never once were embarrassed to walk down to street with me or introduce me to their friends and be seen out with me. But some girls here in England still say they don’t really want to be seen walking with him, just in case someone they think is cool will see them.
And when I finally got naked with one Western women and she saw my disabled body, she just asked me to leave there and then – Talk about loosing face and embarrassed.
But when I got naked in front of the Thai ladies (I was SH**ING myself) she did not even blink and eye and never even talked about it, other than she was going to take good care of me until the morning.. Which she did.
So yes the BG do need to be treated respect and tenderness and most of them do deep down really care in some way or another (Well I hope so) So if they can make a young disabled man feel a little bit better about him self them they are truly wonderful people.
Sorry it I went off on one and did not really add anything new to this tread, but I thought I might be a nice idea to let people know about my story. Could see on where else to add this.

 

[cutie]

Enjoy the beer Buddy and have a nice weekend too.

 

[papercutfaint]

I have to admitt i have also seen a change towards the tourists.
but to be honest most of them (the tourists that is)ask for every thin they get .
The are still plenty of good girls out there you just have to know the rules of the game.
as for relationship break downs well thats part of life ,the plenty of us here that have failed relationships with farang ladies and i am no exception .
but i have found that i get back as much as i put in with a relationship with a Thai lady.
Alas Thai /farang relationships only seem to get the worst side reported when its gone wrong and or the seemingly deceptive Thai lady(in the eyes of the other party)has took them to the cleaners.
but remember divorce in the UK the fella may as well just sign his lifes belongings straight over to the woman.

 

[Me.]

Just to change the script a little and have a more soft approach.... i.e how are you, would you like a cold towel (or some powder) ! its just too robotic i guess, but yes i agree the topics of conversation with a new face must be limited.... i suppose its more the attitude rather than the questions asked....

I prefer the style of the older ones who have learned over the years through vast experience, "Hello Sir would you like me to wipe your face with a cold towel before or after i sh#g your brains out"........ "sorry Sir didn't catch your name" !