Need Advice...Crush on MPA...?

[Abyss]

SO......What's going on and how is it going with your love life? Have you seen Minnie yet?

I honestly was thinking of giving an update but decided against it. I will leave it up to everyone's imagination on what happened/is happening.

I haven't seen Minnie just cause I don't feel the need to or just don't feel up for it. Maybe one day in the future I'll pop in for a visit.

 

[sexpuppy]

From OP post it doesn't even sound like there is much chemistry, honestly if you met the girl that really like u; u will know. Speaking from experiences, out of 100s of girls I've seen there are really 2 that we both had chemistry and good timing; often timing (for both side to want a friendship/relationship) is just as important as chemistry. In my cases, both of my relationships were good while it lasted but they knew I was married (even though my wife was away at time) and ultimately we can't even stay friends afterward because people/woman do get jealous when they have feelings for someone.

Maybe if u are single u'd think it can work out but single men are inexperienced in long-term relationship and often doesn't know how or cant stay in one for whatever reasons; often due to their personalities/inabilities.

 

[onthe9spa]

Most of the time as soon as you pay for a sexual service they only see you as a client, and might go on dates with you but only as a sugar daddy.. To increase your chances when you meet an attendant you'd like to date DO NOT get sexual services. Just take the massage, but you should still TIP well. Ask about them in the room, stuff like hobbies, ambitions, fav music and movies. These girls are there to make money and not intentionally looking for love, so their guard is usually up. DO NOT offer to help them out of the industry, they hear that crap all the time and then assume you just want them all for yourself. DO NOT belittle their choices of working as an MPA..

When they offer sexual services politely turn them down saying I need to know someone before I can have sex with them, I just came out of curiosity and stayed only to meet you. This helps if you aren't ROCK HARD.. lol

If they stick around to chat with you as you are getting dressed to leave at this point you can tell if it's a good time to give them your number with an "I really enjoyed our conversation, would love to chat more.. Here's my number, no pressure to reach out as I'm sure you get people giving you their number all the time.."

Planting all those little seeds of not being a client, a good conversation, thoughtful, and down to earth.. This will in my experience and opinion increase your chances of having her reach out to you. At that point, it's all up to you.. ;-)

 

[Rockangel]

So...when I first started this hobby I swore to myself to not fall for any of the girls that I see and I have seen quite a few since I started. I created a thread awhile ago about conversion and how I would like to go down the rabbit hole and become friends with MPAs. I received numbers from girls but never acted or actually contacted them back or went back to see them again just cause the girls that actually offered me their number, I wasnt really too attracted to them, though they werent bad looking. So fast forward to now and a few weeks to a month ago I see this MPA (I wont name where I saw this girl or name the girl) but dam I think I have a crush on the girl... which I have seen now a hand full of times. Call me an idiot and say what you may but dam I feel what I feel, I know everyone is going to say that the women just want your money and all that which I dont disagree with but dam I am stumped here...

This MPA did offer their number to me the first time I visited them to visit them at another location that they work at but I guess I was in a hurry and didnt take down their number. Since the first visit they havent offered me their number or anything again. I guess Im just wondering and need some serious advice is there a chance to get her number and hang out outside her place of work? For some reason I get the butterflies around her and I dont know really how to proceed with this? Should I just ask her out right for her number and if she wants to grab some drinks or something sometime? I dont want to make this awkward for either of us either... Also a question for guys who get the girls number just to see them again or at another location, is everything you talk about just transactional and all business?

I understand how you feel. I fell in love with the only MP I ever visited and it never worked out in the end. Its easy if you just love the sessions, but when you fall in love with her personality then thats when it becomes hard. She doesn't really trust men, and has seen and heard everything from the men that she has seen over the years. I wish you the best and if you follow your heart, just be careful it is for the right reason.

 

[Flyingfox]

ultimately we can't even stay friends afterward because people/woman do get jealous when they have feelings for someone.

Very well said.

I recall MPA I dated said " I don't mind you going to see another MPAs so long as you come back to me". I thought I was in heaven for having such a considerate girl friend. It was easy to say than putting it in action Later she asked me to tell her which MPA I was going to see before hand. Sometimes she Whatsapped me to find out where I was. I thought I got another wife at a spa. This relationship cannot last long even though there were free massage and free fuck.

 

[Abyss]

I understad how you feel. I fell in love with the only MP I ever visited and it never worked out in the end. Its easy if you just love the sessions, but when you fall in love with her personality then thats when it becomes hard. She doesn't really trust men, and has seen and heard everything from the men that she has seen over the years. I wish you the best and if you follow your heart, just be careful it is for the right reason.

Thank you, I will follow my heart and I fully agree with everything you've said here.

 

[Brewsky]

Keep us posted, I’m always interested in a love story of captain-save-a-ho and the woman retires her vagina to the rafters.

 

[Abyss]

Just wondering what it was that attracted you to this mpa...
Was it the chatty nature and seemingly openness?
The long passionate kisses?
Her incredible sexy body?
The incredibly good sex?
Or just she offered her phone number....

Someone else had asked me the same questions and I will copy what I replied back to them:

"I honestly cant pin point a reason why im so attracted to her, sure there are hotter, more beautiful and sexier women out there and I have seen them and have enjoyed my time with them. Maybe it is the attention and maybe its cuz we have so much in common that I really like her. Iv had alot better endings, not saying hers are bad but I was more attentive to what she had to say than the actual ending and I guess I was even looking at her eyes more than any other part of her body, maybe its her eyes that I find really attractive? I honestly dont want much from her and I dont see it as just cuz I have money I could get her to do anything".

Just to add it was not her offering her phone number that I was attracted to her, iv had MPAs offer me their numbers and I didn't feel this way about them.

 

[Abyss]

Set limits for your self with regards to the relationship.
Sometimes you will notice something out of place, and that's because it probably is.
Best wishes to both of you.
Life is short and enjoy your time with her.

Thank you for the kind words and advice. I will and maybe in a year or so I'll look back on this thread and provide a proper update.

 

[Caracalla]

 

[Pay2Play]

Fuck her hard in the ass then wait and see if she still wants to be with you. True love is true love!

 

[Rockangel]

Thank you for the kind words and advice. I will and maybe in a year or so I'll look back on this thread and provide a proper update.

How did it go with your girl?

 

[shaneblue]

Been there, done that. It has happened to lots of us and lately I am seeing some guys getting attached to a very smooth lady at a well known spa. It is best not to ever fall in love with any MPA.

Hey krayjee could you please pm me the spa and attendant you are referring to.

 

[Duzy Kutas]

When an MPA says she wants to give you her number.... confirm back as to why she is offering it.
They want to keep good clients and the business is such that they could be jumping around to different places and they want you to follow them.

If they leave any place on bad terms.. they dont want you to call the place they left.. looking for them.. you will typically get
a rude response.. or an attempt to get you see the new girls they have... 'younger ' 'better service'... '$20 room fee off if you come see new girl'...
It happens more often then you think when an MPA is thinking of moving elsewhere.

 

[Abyss]

Hey krayjee could you please pm me the spa and attendant you are referring to.

Re-reading the comment now about some guys falling for a smooth lady has me curious, who is this lady you speak of if you wouldn't mind sharing.

 

[felixami]

So...when I first started this hobby I swore to myself to not fall for any of the girls that I see and I have seen quite a few since I started. I created a thread awhile ago about conversion and how I would like to go down the rabbit hole and become friends with MPAs. I received numbers from girls but never acted or actually contacted them back or went back to see them again just cause the girls that actually offered me their number, I wasnt really too attracted to them, though they werent bad looking. So fast forward to now and a few weeks to a month ago I see this MPA (I wont name where I saw this girl or name the girl) but dam I think I have a crush on the girl... which I have seen now a hand full of times. Call me an idiot and say what you may but dam I feel what I feel, I know everyone is going to say that the women just want your money and all that which I dont disagree with but dam I am stumped here...

This MPA did offer their number to me the first time I visited them to visit them at another location that they work at but I guess I was in a hurry and didnt take down their number. Since the first visit they havent offered me their number or anything again. I guess Im just wondering and need some serious advice is there a chance to get her number and hang out outside her place of work? For some reason I get the butterflies around her and I dont know really how to proceed with this? Should I just ask her out right for her number and if she wants to grab some drinks or something sometime? I dont want to make this awkward for either of us either... Also a question for guys who get the girls number just to see them again or at another location, is everything you talk about just transactional and all business?

Take a cold shower and call me in the morning.

 

[Abyss]

Take a cold shower and call me in the morning.

Lol... I always take cold showers.

 

[Deleted member 101953]

Most of the time as soon as you pay for a sexual service they only see you as a client, and might go on dates with you but only as a sugar daddy.. To increase your chances when you meet an attendant you'd like to date DO NOT get sexual services. Just take the massage, but you should still TIP well. Ask about them in the room, stuff like hobbies, ambitions, fav music and movies. These girls are there to make money and not intentionally looking for love, so their guard is usually up. DO NOT offer to help them out of the industry, they hear that crap all the time and then assume you just want them all for yourself. DO NOT belittle their choices of working as an MPA..

When they offer sexual services politely turn them down saying I need to know someone before I can have sex with them, I just came out of curiosity and stayed only to meet you. This helps if you aren't ROCK HARD.. lol

If they stick around to chat with you as you are getting dressed to leave at this point you can tell if it's a good time to give them your number with an "I really enjoyed our conversation, would love to chat more.. Here's my number, no pressure to reach out as I'm sure you get people giving you their number all the time.."

Planting all those little seeds of not being a client, a good conversation, thoughtful, and down to earth.. This will in my experience and opinion increase your chances of having her reach out to you. At that point, it's all up to you.. ;-)

Damn homie. Are you sure you are not Neil Strauss? lol

 

[Deleted member 89461]

**Anatomy of a Simp Lonely Hearts Club thread-

Newb: "hey guys! I met someone who is sooo amazing! We have something special. We click in a hundred ways! What do you guys think? Should I or shouldn't I?"
15-20 Members:"be careful Dude! It's probably gonna be a rabbit hole to avoid. Here's the 87 reasons why..."
Newb-"appreciate all the comprehensive advice. That's great! I hear ya!...BUT I think I'm gonna go for it. Did I mention we have something special?!..."

**Admin- feel free to make my post a Sticky

Yes-man psychology in a nut-shell. It's like they want you to say "yes" to make them feel more comfortable lol.

 

[Bustanut]

Don’t be a simp. You’re a number to this girl and any other girl In the business. You feeling infatuated like this is nothing more than a dream. You are a dollar sign to these girls PERIOD. Nothing more than that. Only way you get her is by buying her time with your money.

So...when I first started this hobby I swore to myself to not fall for any of the girls that I see and I have seen quite a few since I started. I created a thread awhile ago about conversion and how I would like to go down the rabbit hole and become friends with MPAs. I received numbers from girls but never acted or actually contacted them back or went back to see them again just cause the girls that actually offered me their number, I wasnt really too attracted to them, though they werent bad looking. So fast forward to now and a few weeks to a month ago I see this MPA (I wont name where I saw this girl or name the girl) but dam I think I have a crush on the girl... which I have seen now a hand full of times. Call me an idiot and say what you may but dam I feel what I feel, I know everyone is going to say that the women just want your money and all that which I dont disagree with but dam I am stumped here...

This MPA did offer their number to me the first time I visited them to visit them at another location that they work at but I guess I was in a hurry and didnt take down their number. Since the first visit they havent offered me their number or anything again. I guess Im just wondering and need some serious advice is there a chance to get her number and hang out outside her place of work? For some reason I get the butterflies around her and I dont know really how to proceed with this? Should I just ask her out right for her number and if she wants to grab some drinks or something sometime? I dont want to make this awkward for either of us either... Also a question for guys who get the girls number just to see them again or at another location, is everything you talk about just transactional and all business?