Need Advice...Crush on MPA...?

[onthe9spa]

Damn homie. Are you sure you are not Neil Strauss? lol

I had to google who that was.. lol

 

[AHK47]

Tell you what … if she’s still working at a spa , she is doing the nasty with others . Tell her you will still see other spa girls. See what she says. Lol. She can do it but you can’t.

Yes and no. The difference is she is getting paid to do it while he is paying to see other working girls. She'll think, why is he still paying to fuck these other hoes when he can see me for free? So it would be hard to justify seeing sp's or mpa's, but civies would still be fair game. Ofc that only works if you at least have some 'game'. If you don't hook up with civies at all well then sucks to by you, in more ways than one.

 

[WheresTheJohn]

Man I’m going to say what others have said and I’m not sure what’s happened in your case but do not I repeat do not fall for these girls, it will always always result in heartache. I am curious though what ever did happen.

 

[oakville_man]

I never take MPs seriously. One of my regs got mad and banned me from life LOL because I saw one gal at spa and not her. I knew she was banging other guys and even told her but denied it saying "the guy who said it is crazy". Obviously the rules do not apply to MPs.

MPs have many regulars and give some extra mileage with some of them. Do not fall for a MP. It is not worth it.

 

[oakville_man]

Very well said.

I recall MPA I dated said " I don't mind you going to see another MPAs so long as you come back to me". I thought I was in heaven for having such a considerate girl friend. It was easy to say than putting it in action Later she asked me to tell her which MPA I was going to see before hand. Sometimes she Whatsapped me to find out where I was. I thought I got another wife at a spa. This relationship cannot last long even though there were free massage and free fuck.

I know how you feel Bro. Having another wife at a spa means trouble.

 

[WheresTheJohn]

I never take MPs seriously. One of my regs got mad and banned me from life LOL because I saw one gal at spa and not her. I knew she was banging other guys and even told her but denied it saying "the guy who said it is crazy". Obviously the rules do not apply to MPs.

MPs have many regulars and give some extra mileage with some of them. Do not fall for a MP. It is not worth it.

Yea that is exactly what I would tell the OP as well. These women love to play games.

 

[xtc27]

I know how you feel Bro. Having another wife at a spa means trouble.

Very well put

 

[Dongo]

Calling you crazy or not normal is one of the common defenses that they use to defend their actions.
Basically it's just gas lighting.
You won't be able to have an open conversation with someone who will always be hiding things from you. It's disappointing and I guess it's just part of their survival routine.
They can get more from you when you fall for them.

A lot good advice in these posts..

 

[oakville_man]

I dated a MP for years, gave her gifts and presents for birthday and Christmas. One day I got a hint from a member here of the special services he got. I asked a friend of mine to test her and confirmed she was providing extra services. When I told her she started saying "she does not know the guy", "the guy is crazy", etc. I made the mistake of dating her for one more year until I opened my eyes and realized she was full of shit. Big lesson learned: no one is special. MPs only care about money.

 

[MrBnH]

So...when I first started this hobby I swore to myself to not fall for any of the girls that I see and I have seen quite a few since I started. I created a thread awhile ago about conversion and how I would like to go down the rabbit hole and become friends with MPAs. I received numbers from girls but never acted or actually contacted them back or went back to see them again just cause the girls that actually offered me their number, I wasnt really too attracted to them, though they werent bad looking. So fast forward to now and a few weeks to a month ago I see this MPA (I wont name where I saw this girl or name the girl) but dam I think I have a crush on the girl... which I have seen now a hand full of times. Call me an idiot and say what you may but dam I feel what I feel, I know everyone is going to say that the women just want your money and all that which I dont disagree with but dam I am stumped here...

This MPA did offer their number to me the first time I visited them to visit them at another location that they work at but I guess I was in a hurry and didnt take down their number. Since the first visit they havent offered me their number or anything again. I guess Im just wondering and need some serious advice is there a chance to get her number and hang out outside her place of work? For some reason I get the butterflies around her and I dont know really how to proceed with this? Should I just ask her out right for her number and if she wants to grab some drinks or something sometime? I dont want to make this awkward for either of us either... Also a question for guys who get the girls number just to see them again or at another location, is everything you talk about just transactional and all business?

Yes, you know what you are getting into and you have been warned, but definitely get her number, ask her out and go have a good time with her. Highly unlikely that you will find her to be wife material and so don't set yourself up for a broken heart (and/or bank account) and don't go crazy with the cash/spend. I have hung out with many MPA's over time and always had a fun time, but never did I come close to lettting myself think there was anything more than just short term fun. Keep it real.

 

[xtc27]

I dated a MP for years, gave her gifts and presents for birthday and Christmas. One day I got a hint from a member here of the special services he got. I asked a friend of mine to test her and confirmed she was providing extra services. When I told her she started saying "she does not know the guy", "the guy is crazy", etc. I made the mistake of dating her for one more year until I opened my eyes and realized she was full of shit. Big lesson learned: no one is special. MPs only care about money.

So, theres legit mpas, then the other kind….

… w gals giving xxxtras, if u no what yer getting into, go 4 it… but its not a traditional monogamy wife kids mortgage relationship… its a connection w a gal providing lots of services 2 any man books her time… & u? A dude bookng time w women like that… so mebbe yer not lookng 4 a wifey either …

If that turns u both on, go have fun… its a bit easier 2 just stay as FWB & dont worry about a deeper relationship…

Legit mpas… well, RMTs rarely give xxxtras, so u gotta decide if yer ok that yer S.O. touches men every day, even if not sexual… … nurses & PSWs gotta touch men intimately 2… Im not shopping 4 a wife, but if I were, some aisles Id avoid….

 

[Flyingfox]

I have a regular who I have been seeing for years (one or two times in a month) . In the last session she said to me she likes me and asked me if I like her or not. She is so serious not like other spa girls, saying like me in the first session and ask me to be her boy friend / they are so fake and I never take their sayings for real. She also mentioned some good deeds I did to her a few years back. She remembers the details so well. I know she really meant it.

I don’t know how to respond and did not give her a solid answer. She said it is not “love” in a sense that she knows it is not possible. She knows I have an SO at home. I thought if I say yes, will I get more mileage from her? (she is a semi girl). I don’t want to take advantage of her by telling her a lie. Actually, I don’t want to get too close to the girls as expectation will then be built up, I have done this before and it turned out not fun,

Now, I have decided not to see her in the next few months. Maybe I put my head in the sand. I will miss her wonderful massage for a while.

 

[krayjee]

A lot good advice in these posts..

Yes..but most fell on to the deaf ears. Trust me, I have seriously dated quite a few and they have no hearts for love. Some of them have husbands and boyfriends, one girl I have been with has both. but they will still fcuk you to fulfill their sexual desires. Some will fcuk you for cash, some will fcuk you to use you for their business , some will fcuk you for sex, never for love. They don't care who you are fcuking around with either. Love doesn't exist in their lives.
A few yrs back I was dating 2 spa girls at the same time, they both knew I was fcuking both of them alternately and they didn't care. They also fcuk with some of their fav customers time to time and I knew some of those guys. One day while we were having fun after the spa closed and while she was riding me her BF called. She just answered one girl still working and will be back home soon. I felt so bad when I came out and saw her boyfriend's car parked across the road, watching me and her leaving. I told her the next day and she didn't care at all, may be the guy didn't say anything to her. That's how they all are. Never ever get attached to them, if you did, you are in big trouble.

 

[xtc27]

I have a regular who I have been seeing for years (one or two times in a month) . In the last session she said to me she likes me and asked me if I like her or not. She is so serious not like other spa girls, saying like me in the first session and ask me to be her boy friend / they are so fake and I never take their sayings for real. She also mentioned some good deeds I did to her a few years back. She remembers the details so well. I know she really meant it.

I don’t know how to respond and did not give her a solid answer. She said it is not “love” in a sense that she knows it is not possible. She knows I have an SO at home. I thought if I say yes, will I get more mileage from her? (she is a semi girl). I don’t want to take advantage of her by telling her a lie. Actually, I don’t want to get too close to the girls as expectation will then be built up, I have done this before and it turned out not fun,

Now, I have decided not to see her in the next few months. Maybe I put my head in the sand. I will miss her wonderful massage for a while.

its a real mistress if u pursue it… all the fun & headache that entails…

Gd thing about spas… u leave, yer done, they dont follow u home or ask 4 help on moving day… or $$$ 4 abortions… … Herschel Walker take note!

…. Think about their lives… hard 2 keep friends outside spa when they work 12 hr shifts, mebbe only a day or 2 free… when they shop, do laundry, wechat w family… so whos gonna b their human connection?

It can b … us!

… & what keeps us connected 2 her? Friendship. Sex.

Up 2u if u wanna squeeze another squeeze into yer life… but unlike those online app dates, nsa will stay nsa, therell b no pet bunny on the stove when u come home… (a la Fatal Attraction… )

… u can control not getting caught by yer S.O. right now… u pick times that allow most privacy, mebbe skip weeks or vary day of wk… once u take it a step further, shes gonna wanna take more of yer time… now yer juggling a mistress…

 

[oakville_man]

and I'm not sure of

Yes..but most fell on to the deaf ears. Trust me, I have seriously dated quite a few and they have no hearts for love. Some of them have husbands and boyfriends, but they will still fcuk you to fulfill their sexual desires. Some will fcuk you for cash, some will fcuk you for sex, never for love. They don't care who you are fcuking around with either. Love doesn't exist in MPAS' lives. A few yrs back I was dating 2 spa bosses at the same time, they both knew I was fcuking both of them alternately and they didn't care. They also fcuk with some of their fav customers time to time and I knew some of those guys. Some were my close buddies in here. That's how they all are. Never ever get attached to them, if you did, you are in big trouble.

Sad but true

 

[TheWhiteShadow]

I have a regular who I have been seeing for years (one or two times in a month) . In the last session she said to me she likes me and asked me if I like her or not. She is so serious not like other spa girls, saying like me in the first session and ask me to be her boy friend / they are so fake and I never take their sayings for real. She also mentioned some good deeds I did to her a few years back. She remembers the details so well. I know she really meant it.

I don’t know how to respond and did not give her a solid answer. She said it is not “love” in a sense that she knows it is not possible. She knows I have an SO at home. I thought if I say yes, will I get more mileage from her? (she is a semi girl). I don’t want to take advantage of her by telling her a lie. Actually, I don’t want to get too close to the girls as expectation will then be built up, I have done this before and it turned out not fun,

Now, I have decided not to see her in the next few months. Maybe I put my head in the sand. I will miss her wonderful massage for a while.

Had a similar case with a regular, she would alway tell me she liked me different, would ask me if I liked her. I always said of course I do I would be here if I didn’t, she’d say but do you really like me, and asked why I only see her at the spa. Ended up being straight with her, that although I do like her seeing outside the spa couldn’t happen. In the end she was ok with it, things stayed the same and eventually the thrill wore off for me and probably her, and stopped seeing as much. Funny thing is, she never realizes that I knew she had similar relationships with other guys. The point is, when ever they say just you baby, it’s never just you.

 

[oakville_man]

Yes..but most fell on to the deaf ears. Trust me, I have seriously dated quite a few and they have no hearts for love. Some of them have husbands and boyfriends, but they will still fcuk you to fulfill their sexual desires. Some will fcuk you for cash, some will fcuk you for sex, never for love. They don't care who you are fcuking around with either. Love doesn't exist in MPAS' lives. A few yrs back I was dating 2 spa girls at the same time, they both knew I was fcuking both of them alternately and they didn't care. They also fcuk with some of their fav customers time to time and I knew some of those guys. Some were my close buddies in here. That's how they all are. Never ever get attached to them, if you did, you are in big trouble.

You are very lucky man. I wanted to see a hot one while my ex-regular was there but she found out and banned me for life. The funny thing is that she was crying all time while she was telling me she did not want to see me anymore.

 

[oakville_man]

Had a similar case with a regular, she would alway tell me she liked me different, would ask me if I liked her. I always said of course I do I would be here if I didn’t, she’d say but do you really like me, and asked why I only see her at the spa. Ended up being straight with her, that although I do like her seeing outside the spa couldn’t happen. In the end she was ok with it, things stayed the same and eventually the thrill wore off for me and probably her, and stopped seeing as much. Funny thing is, she never realizes that I knew she had similar relationships with other guys. The point is, when ever they say just you baby, it’s never just you.

Only you baby LOL. The line is so popular.

 

[xtc27]

Had a similar case with a regular, she would alway tell me she liked me different, would ask me if I liked her. I always said of course I do I would be here if I didn’t, she’d say but do you really like me, and asked why I only see her at the spa. Ended up being straight with her, that although I do like her seeing outside the spa couldn’t happen. In the end she was ok with it, things stayed the same and eventually the thrill wore off for me and probably her, and stopped seeing as much. Funny thing is, she never realizes that I knew she had similar relationships with other guys. The point is, when ever they say just you baby, it’s never just you.

Mebbe gd choice in this case… totally depends on her & what she wants.

… personally always been lotsa fun… I got no cxxpectation of relationship or loyalty, just a lil friendship & sex …

… can just b groping & neckng… nuthin wrong w that… or more intimate… don’t b fooled tho, BBFS just as dangerous as if u pay 4 it, wear a ‘dom …

It’s really pure NSA sex @ it’s best… they don’t know your full name & address, mebbe not yer ph# … & they can disappear on u just as easily… so u can keep that firewall around yer privacy.

 

[TheWhiteShadow]

Yeah for sure, never use my real name or my real #, I just don’t have the time or ability to take it outside the spa regularly. That’s why I rarely repeat, when I do I’ll take as far and as long as possible. Then eventually slowly reduce seeing them until i ultimately stop. I enjoy the thrill of trying to find gems and trying different spas and girls.