What does it mean?

[Shaggster]

If asked "do you WANT to be with me forever?" a guy answers "I hope so"
what the hell does that mean?
I'm thinking it means he's happy right now but not sure if the changes made will continue but it could mean he hopes eventually he'll want to be with me forever.....
what do you guys think?

 

[eternalshadow37]

Commitment issues!

The answer should be yes and we'll work at our relationship, every single day.

I hope so is something that a doctor says to you about brain or heart surgery.

I hope so is something Hamilton City Council is saying about the new stadium and Tiger Cats staying.

 

[Superdave]

Once he says I hope so, you are done. Means what kind of a stupid question is that.

 

[~*~Ashlyn~*~]

First impression was that hes agreeing that he wants to be...ie i hope we'll be together...that would be great...would like to but who can tell the future for sure

seems more positive than "ya" or "guess so" or "sure"

 

[Rob M]

Not sure if you're only looking for Guy input here, but I'll chance it.

Sorry, hon, it's not the answer you were hoping for. It means he wants to be with you until someone else comes along.

If a man wants to be with you forever, you don't have to ask. He'll let you know.

Sorry.

 

[?Strawberry?]

He's not sure and is giving you an honest answer.

 

[akristel2003]

Sorry, but I disagree. It doesn't mean that at all.

None of us know precisely what HE (and only he) meant by that but I think Scotty said it best: He hopes he'll be with you forever but who the heck knows what the future holds?

Here's a suggestion:

Why not ask him for clarification? (it's too late now, if you weren't clear then, should have asked then). I think most guys don't play the word games that women do. If we talk, we don't talk in code.....

 

[Lill Iren F]

I like to answer that question with: "I want to be with you until you draw your last breath".

 

[Pompal 09.]

Anyone can tell you what you want to hear, he is telling you what is really in his head. Nobody can predict how they will feel 5 or 10 years down the road.



I knew it, you are the little blue ax murderer smurf. You make that statement as you stand over them with your ax over your shoulder don't you?:he:

 

[ecky x]

Happily divorced for over 21 years.

 

[keen2ts]

That would go over well when accompanied by a Dr Evil evil laugh..

BUAHhhahahahhahaha whilst twirling your snidely whiplash moustache.....:666:

 

[Glossy Hair]

thank you all for your input. I'm hoping that those of you who said he really hopes it'll last but nobody knows the future is the correct answer. I still don't know what to think...
I had asked him right before that if he thought we would work and he said he didn't know and followed that with this question....
He doesn't have chronic committment issues because he was committed to me for almost 14 years until this summer and we do have 2 kids together but we're trying to work things out now. His answer just threw me off 'cause if I wanted it to work but didn't know if it would I would have answered "yes I want it to work" and followed it with I don't know what the future holds or I hope things don't change or something like that....been more specific.

Anyways, thanks, the answers you gave obviously can't tell me what's going on in his head but at least it gives me hope that it can be a positive answer, not necessarily that he doesn't want it now but hopes he will before it's too late.

 

[knocked up]

Kefm, he is being realistic. I hope so is not such a bad answer. How many couples have swore under oath "To be with you until the day that I die" is kind of phony.

 

[noodlecakes]

We don't know him, I think you have to trust your instincts about him.

I sounds like he's being honest and realistic, but you need reassurance more than anything at this time and it isn't quite there and maybe he's just not the type of guy who can fake that.
Is he making an attempt to help you fix things, change what went wrong or is it all up to you? It sounds like you're being very patient with him and giving him a lot of chances to do so, but maybe he's seeing that he doesn't have to if you accept him back anyway or if he has other options readily available.

Good luck.

 

[mystery girl]

If ya was committed you would be married and before the critters was born.

 

[irockj0rsockz]

Send me a pic of yourself and I will gladly tell you if you should think about staying with him for eternity or if maybe a fling is warranted. DON'T worry about his feelings because he isn't worried about yours.

Sorry in advance for being a shallow, selfish neanderthal of a man but it's my new years resolution to take every opportunity that presents itself for sexual gratification.:666::great:arty:

 

[Penn]

Perv

 

[Ray]

Yes I know, thank you!:love:

 

[ghostwriter]

We've been married for 7 1/2 years and were common law married for 7 years before that.

 

[Blonde Vegetarian]

Chunky can you please get rid of your avatar pic. It is very disturbing :frown:.